i keep tripping up on the internalized expectation that what's good for the goose must also be good for the gander, with no room for differentiation, or we're doing something wrong. even as i keep reminding myself, "it's like we're two different people", i keep expecting that the things that bug me and want specific behaviours to redress, are also ( Read more... )

( sometimes things don't look broke until you poke at them )