The recent Slutwalk event is driving an increased public awareness of the idea of "not blaming the victim" when it comes to people subjected to unwelcome interactions scaling from undesirable interest all the way up to outright sexual attacks. I'm all in favour of wide-spread education about boundaries and the shared lexicon of what's effective and ( Read more... )

Lerner's Dance of Intimacy was my first detailed introduction to the concept of triangulation in relationships; it was something i had encountered briefly in readings years ago, a little more in depth with gloria when we started exploring the fact that i don't select my intimate relationships for exclusivity ( Read more... )

matthew and i engaged the processes tonight, and covered some valuable ground.

( the value of the hypothetical )

i have to buy a voice recorder for my sessions with Gloria. i'm not a note-taker, and even if i was, it's easiest to convey things to matthew that we discuss in his absence with straight play-back. that way, i don't have to try and be coherent about things i'm still processing, stuff i don't clearly understand, or stuff that makes me uncomfortable ( Read more... )