parental update.
well i'm happy to report that things have improved with my mom & dad.
first. i called my dad and talked to him about things. we have never really discussed anything that wasn't factual or didn't involve money. so i was mentally preparing for the phone call for most of the day. as well, my mom always tells me how my dad feels, and it's always a bit skewed. i wanted to hear it from him.
so i call on monday after work. i tell him that i've started the process. tell him that if he has any questions or concerns, that i'm here and i'll answer them the best i can. i forgot the majority of the conversation because i was so nervous, but it went well. basically i think he is having a hard time with it, and he expressed that it will take a while to accept. understandable. he said he was going to try and have the 'do you know what you are doing?' argument, but after i explained that i am doing everything by the book, he said we probably didn't need to have it. i think at this stage, he would change it if he could. and i think he is just honestly worried about me. near the end of the call, he said something that made me feel a hell of a lot better. i was talking to him about how my sister and i have gotten a lot closer. he says. "well, you know, she has ulterior motives for that, right?', i respond, "what do you mean?' he says, "well now she doesn't have another sister to compete with."
i always know my dad can handle something if he jokes about it.
yesterday, after my visit with my GP, my mom calls. it was the first conversation in about four months that lasted longer than five minutes. aside from the emotion filled calls of this weekend. she wanted to inform me that she visited the sites that i sent to her, and connected with 2 other ladies that also have trans children. which is amazing and will be so wonderful for her. one even lives fairly close to her and they plan on meeting. she is also calling me my proper name, well she's calls me Lee [one of my second names] because Ray is just too weird for it. It being my Dad's name too. I think she's somewhat over the inital shock of everything. And yes, she has known for a while, but me going on T made it real to her and my dad.
I think them seeing me once changes start happening might be a little tense, but I think they are headed in the right direction.
In other news, my iron is super low. So I am on pills. Not liquid iron that makes me vomit. Yay!
first. i called my dad and talked to him about things. we have never really discussed anything that wasn't factual or didn't involve money. so i was mentally preparing for the phone call for most of the day. as well, my mom always tells me how my dad feels, and it's always a bit skewed. i wanted to hear it from him.
so i call on monday after work. i tell him that i've started the process. tell him that if he has any questions or concerns, that i'm here and i'll answer them the best i can. i forgot the majority of the conversation because i was so nervous, but it went well. basically i think he is having a hard time with it, and he expressed that it will take a while to accept. understandable. he said he was going to try and have the 'do you know what you are doing?' argument, but after i explained that i am doing everything by the book, he said we probably didn't need to have it. i think at this stage, he would change it if he could. and i think he is just honestly worried about me. near the end of the call, he said something that made me feel a hell of a lot better. i was talking to him about how my sister and i have gotten a lot closer. he says. "well, you know, she has ulterior motives for that, right?', i respond, "what do you mean?' he says, "well now she doesn't have another sister to compete with."
i always know my dad can handle something if he jokes about it.
yesterday, after my visit with my GP, my mom calls. it was the first conversation in about four months that lasted longer than five minutes. aside from the emotion filled calls of this weekend. she wanted to inform me that she visited the sites that i sent to her, and connected with 2 other ladies that also have trans children. which is amazing and will be so wonderful for her. one even lives fairly close to her and they plan on meeting. she is also calling me my proper name, well she's calls me Lee [one of my second names] because Ray is just too weird for it. It being my Dad's name too. I think she's somewhat over the inital shock of everything. And yes, she has known for a while, but me going on T made it real to her and my dad.
I think them seeing me once changes start happening might be a little tense, but I think they are headed in the right direction.
In other news, my iron is super low. So I am on pills. Not liquid iron that makes me vomit. Yay!