Michiru breaks sudden hiatus.

[miluda]

Well, I was going to take a break from LJ (and some other online activities) but I think I feel the need to say something about this

Comments

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[minitsu]

Oh man, last thing you should do is feel bad. It sounds like her inferiority complex is entirely her fault. And unfortunately, this is affecting you and your family. I'm...really sorry to hear about this. That you have to go through those negative emotions because of things she brought on herself. ...I'm not really knowledgable or good at this kind of stuff, but, um, I dunno.. Easy answer would be to ignore it, but that's nigh impossible. I guess... Bah. I dunno. WHATEVER. *HUGS INSTEAD* >:B)-/

Sorry if I'm being harsh on her...but those kind of people--to my friends especially--no! I do not like it, no, missyyyy!

[miluda]

Somehow, she finds a way to fight about everything... it's really, really weird. It also doesn't help that much of the time she attempts to recall something, she always... umm... remembers it... quite wrong... >_>;;

Yeah, I usually would ignore it, but she's my older sister; I was born into this world and she already existed for a year already... and living with her makes ... it... very... difficult... ;_;

I mean, oh yay, internet hugs oh thaaaaanks.

[minitsu]

Sounds like she has problems that are her own fault that she doesn't want to admit to and/or deal with. I'm sorry you have to put up with her and the negative effects of her inferiority complex. :[ *hughug* Parents not of much help?

[miluda]

She hates admitting when she's wrong, and is more willing to yell about other things than admit it.

I mean, there are times that she does, and there are times where the whole subject is dropped. Or like... something like this will happen:

Me: ????
Her: DSAFAAIEWHHDSAFKJS
Me: O_o????
Her: ASDFIAFEHOWJ!!
Me: ...
Her: ASDFAIEWHFAOELH!!! !!!!I!J!!!IH!IHI!CDCID!JKS
Me: :/
Her: ASFDAFEWFW *door slam*
Me: *door slams too* >___>~~
*ten seconds later*
Her: *open door*
Me: >___> *hears knocking on door*
Her: Wanna go to the mall?
Me: Okay.

END.

Well, my mom can't speak English effectively, and sometimes she gets confused on what we're saying in English... takes it the wrong way, miscommunication ensues... and my dad is trying to reason, but he has a bad temper, so he raises his voice a lot, and... yeah. Each time I try to talk, I'm so calm in those family situations that sooner or later my words just aren't heard anymore because it's been drown out by the yelling.

[minitsu]

I see. Then she has pride issues and... I dunno. I don't think you should do that anymore. Like, accepting her invitation to do something normal after a ridiculous one-sided arguement. That's just showing her that she can act out of line and not suffer any consequences. (I'm guessing she doesn't apologize, or is not sorry enough to prevent further outbursts.) Even if she just gets more pissy after rejecting her "peace offering," at least you're telling her, in essence, "I'm not going to let you bitch at me and then get your way without an apology." (Because she is wrong.) Even if that means getting distant, or cutting off ties completely. Because you need to think about your well-being, too. And being around someone like that, constantly letting them bullshit you and (basically) walk over you, is doing damage to you mentality and mood. It's sad, but if she can't change, she's only bringing you down with what she does, then the time should come when you just say, "I've had enough of your immature antics. Goodbye." Because some people

[miluda]

I accept it because what happened before was so... confusing that I'm not sure why I should be mad. And if I reject her, I'll just make things worse for myself as I'm sure it'll just upset her more and have her yell at me for about some other things soon after. I don't even KNOW what she should be apologizing for-- that's how faulty her "arguments" are... and I'm not even sure half the time of what she's angry and yelling about. I guess I just keep trying to understand how her mind works, but it's just... umm... crazy

[minitsu]

Ahh. Man, that's crazy. What about...trying to explain it to your mom, your dad?

[miluda]

They all know about it, and understand it, and agree with me.

After the situation happened today, my mom asked for me to see her... and she basically said, "Tina often gets like that, so when she goes on a crazy talk, just don't be strongly affected." In Mandarin.

And I replied, "Yeah, mom. I know. Don't worry about it."

[minitsu]

... :|

I, uh, I dunno what to say. At least you're all on the same page. x_x;