Can I get a witness?
A reptile resides in our backyard. I witnessed it basking under the spring sun three days ago, oblivious to the goddess-like creature who approached it and took a photo. :D This ‘lizard’ looked like a dry tree branch from afar but lucky I didn’t touch it. It’s feeding on the snails that have multiplied like rabbits thanks to recent showers and an empty glass aquarium left outdoors that became their breeding ground. Quite disgusting really. :p At least there is a lizard roaming about and munching on them. Maybe a dingo will wander in next to eat the lizard. Hehehe. :P And perhaps a kangaroo hopping about to please the tourists. :P
I curse thee poor camera phone resolution!
Anywho…
I mentioned before that I watched ‘Shall we dance?’ last weekend and I really liked the scene where this minor character asked Susan Sarandon the question ‘Why do people marry?’. The minor character said ‘I bet you’d answer passion.’ And Susan said ‘No.’ To paraphrase, Susan said that people marry to have a witness. She argued that each and every one of us live in fear that we could die tomorrow and no one will notice we ever lived.
However, when you marry, you have a ‘witness’ that you existed. Someone who’s there to see you do the big things like raising a family, getting that cool job, traveling around the world and the little things like the special way you fold your laundry, that fantastic dress you bought, the way you brush your hair. Your very own biographer if you like.
People give various reasons why they marry. For love, for money, ‘for the baby’, etc. Many reasons are grand while others are dubious and superficial. Before I watched this movie, I would have said I will marry for love. Full stop. But then I thought, what is the essence of love? What makes you love someone and not another? The first time I fell in love I got it all wrong. He was my exact opposite and we ended up always doing ‘neutral’ things like watching movies, dinner with friends etc. I’ve had to drop all my other passions and he couldn’t quite indulge his. I realized now that the relationship hindered my personal growth and I was slowly dying inside.
Anyway, the point I’m trying to make is that he wasn’t quite eager to witness the life I wanted to live and I wasn’t quite eager to witness his. Our relationship was built on compromises, all for love.
Well, my plan is never to go down that path again. I look forward to meeting someone who has interests and passions similar to mine. That way this whole ‘I witness your life, you witness mine’ will excite me, not torture me or bore me. Gah. This post is meant to be well-written. But I’ve procrastinated long enough and must go back to studying for tomorrow’s exams. Wish me luck ya bitches! :P
I curse thee poor camera phone resolution!
Anywho…
I mentioned before that I watched ‘Shall we dance?’ last weekend and I really liked the scene where this minor character asked Susan Sarandon the question ‘Why do people marry?’. The minor character said ‘I bet you’d answer passion.’ And Susan said ‘No.’ To paraphrase, Susan said that people marry to have a witness. She argued that each and every one of us live in fear that we could die tomorrow and no one will notice we ever lived.
However, when you marry, you have a ‘witness’ that you existed. Someone who’s there to see you do the big things like raising a family, getting that cool job, traveling around the world and the little things like the special way you fold your laundry, that fantastic dress you bought, the way you brush your hair. Your very own biographer if you like.
People give various reasons why they marry. For love, for money, ‘for the baby’, etc. Many reasons are grand while others are dubious and superficial. Before I watched this movie, I would have said I will marry for love. Full stop. But then I thought, what is the essence of love? What makes you love someone and not another? The first time I fell in love I got it all wrong. He was my exact opposite and we ended up always doing ‘neutral’ things like watching movies, dinner with friends etc. I’ve had to drop all my other passions and he couldn’t quite indulge his. I realized now that the relationship hindered my personal growth and I was slowly dying inside.
Anyway, the point I’m trying to make is that he wasn’t quite eager to witness the life I wanted to live and I wasn’t quite eager to witness his. Our relationship was built on compromises, all for love.
Well, my plan is never to go down that path again. I look forward to meeting someone who has interests and passions similar to mine. That way this whole ‘I witness your life, you witness mine’ will excite me, not torture me or bore me. Gah. This post is meant to be well-written. But I’ve procrastinated long enough and must go back to studying for tomorrow’s exams. Wish me luck ya bitches! :P