Visit To See My New Niece
I drove 7.5 hours to see her. I mostly sat around and read my Kindle while my new niece fed, pooped, and napped. I tried not to intrude on what my brother and sister-in-law were doing. They're going to have to figure out what to do when no one is around. Which, they'll be on their own after tomorrow. I also wanted to see her while routine was still trying to be figured out. That way I wasn't disrupting patterns. I just watched them form. Sister-in-law and her mom left my brother and I with the baby. She got very fussy, so I quietly talked to her while rocking her and after a few minutes she feel asleep. Once she woke up about 20 minutes later I noticed she was rooting around, looking for that breast milk. So I made a bottle while my brother held a very fussy baby. I fed her and she was a little hungry. About an ounce of formula. But considering she's not supposed to get more than 2 oz. at a time that was just a top off. They have a weighing at the doctor's office tomorrow and hopefully she's regained some of the weight that all babies lose after they're born. If not then they'll have to see the doctor and make a plan to get her weight up. If she's gained weight then it'll just be weighing and they won't have to wait to see the doctor. She's only 2 weeks old. I know my sister-in-law is feeling less than human and more like a milk dispenser and my brother isn't sure what to do, but they'll get there.
I got a hotel room for the 4 days I was there and it was about $380 for all 4 nights, but as mentioned before, I'm an introvert. Which means I need to have a place where I'm alone to recharge after being social. So I'd go over in the morning, after I woke up, and stayed until after dinner. Usually there was only 1 meal a day. We did go to Longhorn Steak House on Friday night. Good salad and salmon fillet. The niece slept through the whole thing. One of my brother's students (he's teaching college now), who's a waitress there, came over and saw the baby and congratulate him. I needed to have that safe haven to recharge. I had a visitor with me who worked remotely from the hotel room while I was at my brother's. 3 guesses as to who it was, and the last 2 guesses don't count. So, yeah. We figured out how to make 3 weeks between seeing each other into seeing each other each of the 2 weekends we would have been apart.
Don't worry. He wasn't upset that I was gone most of the day. It just meant that he didn't have to take days more than 2 days (Tuesday and Monday). And then they were just half days for him. And the weekend was working on the import business. So he was plenty busy. I didn't leave him high and dry. The evenings were nice ones. Spent in, mostly, quiet with each other... holding hand and, yes, sex. He's just comfortable to be around and doesn't press for time with me or ask more of me than I'm willing to give. The same is given to him. It's perfect for what I feel like I need. It's just right. No commitment but safety all the same. I can count on him. I can't say that about a lot of people. Usually, I'm the foundation and rock for others. He's that for me. I'm still not quite sure why he has decided to do it but he obviously gets something from it or he wouldn't do it. If he feels like he needs to tell me then he will tell me. Otherwise, I won't poke the bear.
I got a hotel room for the 4 days I was there and it was about $380 for all 4 nights, but as mentioned before, I'm an introvert. Which means I need to have a place where I'm alone to recharge after being social. So I'd go over in the morning, after I woke up, and stayed until after dinner. Usually there was only 1 meal a day. We did go to Longhorn Steak House on Friday night. Good salad and salmon fillet. The niece slept through the whole thing. One of my brother's students (he's teaching college now), who's a waitress there, came over and saw the baby and congratulate him. I needed to have that safe haven to recharge. I had a visitor with me who worked remotely from the hotel room while I was at my brother's. 3 guesses as to who it was, and the last 2 guesses don't count. So, yeah. We figured out how to make 3 weeks between seeing each other into seeing each other each of the 2 weekends we would have been apart.
Don't worry. He wasn't upset that I was gone most of the day. It just meant that he didn't have to take days more than 2 days (Tuesday and Monday). And then they were just half days for him. And the weekend was working on the import business. So he was plenty busy. I didn't leave him high and dry. The evenings were nice ones. Spent in, mostly, quiet with each other... holding hand and, yes, sex. He's just comfortable to be around and doesn't press for time with me or ask more of me than I'm willing to give. The same is given to him. It's perfect for what I feel like I need. It's just right. No commitment but safety all the same. I can count on him. I can't say that about a lot of people. Usually, I'm the foundation and rock for others. He's that for me. I'm still not quite sure why he has decided to do it but he obviously gets something from it or he wouldn't do it. If he feels like he needs to tell me then he will tell me. Otherwise, I won't poke the bear.