Question Things Part 1
Self Evaluation Part 1
What are your beliefs about monogamy?
If you've been in monogamous relationships before, how did you feel in those relationships, and how did they work or not work for you?
I have been in mostly monogamous relationships in the past, other than my current relationships all but one of my previous ones have been monogamous. My last Monogamous relationship was even long distance.
I’ve found that when I’m in these types of relationships I feel very caged in, trapped, as if I’m holding back from my true nature. I get a feeling that I should feel guilty by flirting etc with other people even though I actually do not feel these things are wrong etc. It gets very tiring and I think takes away from the way I naturally am.
Do you believe that someone can love/be in love with more than one person at a time?
I do of course. Though I think I’ve come to realize that it’s quite a different thing in believing you can and actually allowing yourself too.
What role does sex play in your relationships? How important is it to you? What does it mean to you?
Sex I think is important in my relationships. I think frequency isn’t as important to me as it used to be vs. quality. It’s an intimate thing when it comes to romantic relationships. And I feel if there is a problem in your sex-life (i.e. inability to actually have it on multiple occasions) That there is probably something in the rest of the relationship that hasn’t been addressed.
Can you have sex without an emotional attachment? How are sex and love related or not related?
I want to say yes, but even with my sexual partners I’ve had in the past I’ve still developed some sort of emotional attachment. I’ve come to realize that I need at least a strong connection, emotionally, mentally, with a person with anything sexual can happen that I’ll actually think was good.
Sex and love can be related but not all the time. Just because you are sexually attracted to somebody does not necessarily mean you could fall in love with them.
Have you ever had a "fuck buddy" or "friend with benefits"? What worked and didn't work about the relationship?
I’ve actually had many of these since I became sexually active at 16. The first being the same guy I lost my virginity too. After we stopped dating we became fuck buddies for a short while.
I had a couple over the years but more so in the last couple years when I let myself be attracted to whoever I was without guilt or restrictions. I also found my confidence level had to go up a lot before I was able to comfortable with this.
I find the ‘Fuck-buddy’ lovers are something I need from time to time. I almost always have a strong to moderate emotionally connection with the person and a foundation of a friendship is in place that even if that aspect of our relationship were to change it wouldn’t affect the friendship part.
It’s very often a casual thing, that happens when it happens but is something that is in a way a ‘relief’ from the emotionally committed relationships I may be in. There are no expectations, ground rules are almost always set and there’s an understanding that it is simply is what it is and won’t go outside of that.
It’s a much different feeling then that I get from my committed relationships, not worse or better but something still needed for my own emotional balance.
What are your beliefs about monogamy?
If you've been in monogamous relationships before, how did you feel in those relationships, and how did they work or not work for you?
I have been in mostly monogamous relationships in the past, other than my current relationships all but one of my previous ones have been monogamous. My last Monogamous relationship was even long distance.
I’ve found that when I’m in these types of relationships I feel very caged in, trapped, as if I’m holding back from my true nature. I get a feeling that I should feel guilty by flirting etc with other people even though I actually do not feel these things are wrong etc. It gets very tiring and I think takes away from the way I naturally am.
Do you believe that someone can love/be in love with more than one person at a time?
I do of course. Though I think I’ve come to realize that it’s quite a different thing in believing you can and actually allowing yourself too.
What role does sex play in your relationships? How important is it to you? What does it mean to you?
Sex I think is important in my relationships. I think frequency isn’t as important to me as it used to be vs. quality. It’s an intimate thing when it comes to romantic relationships. And I feel if there is a problem in your sex-life (i.e. inability to actually have it on multiple occasions) That there is probably something in the rest of the relationship that hasn’t been addressed.
Can you have sex without an emotional attachment? How are sex and love related or not related?
I want to say yes, but even with my sexual partners I’ve had in the past I’ve still developed some sort of emotional attachment. I’ve come to realize that I need at least a strong connection, emotionally, mentally, with a person with anything sexual can happen that I’ll actually think was good.
Sex and love can be related but not all the time. Just because you are sexually attracted to somebody does not necessarily mean you could fall in love with them.
Have you ever had a "fuck buddy" or "friend with benefits"? What worked and didn't work about the relationship?
I’ve actually had many of these since I became sexually active at 16. The first being the same guy I lost my virginity too. After we stopped dating we became fuck buddies for a short while.
I had a couple over the years but more so in the last couple years when I let myself be attracted to whoever I was without guilt or restrictions. I also found my confidence level had to go up a lot before I was able to comfortable with this.
I find the ‘Fuck-buddy’ lovers are something I need from time to time. I almost always have a strong to moderate emotionally connection with the person and a foundation of a friendship is in place that even if that aspect of our relationship were to change it wouldn’t affect the friendship part.
It’s very often a casual thing, that happens when it happens but is something that is in a way a ‘relief’ from the emotionally committed relationships I may be in. There are no expectations, ground rules are almost always set and there’s an understanding that it is simply is what it is and won’t go outside of that.
It’s a much different feeling then that I get from my committed relationships, not worse or better but something still needed for my own emotional balance.