Questions, taken from Jade
How do I define Intimacy?
Intimacy is something I feel is built between partners who have strong feelings for one another. It can be sexual and non-sexual and is most dependant on the emotions involved and the deep understanding between partners.
How do I define sex?
Sexual acts leading to but not necessarily culminating in orgasm.
How do I define sexual intercourse?
Would have to agree about it being a type of penetrative sex.
What are the most important things for a healthy relationship?
This is a hard question to answer but I believe for me the most important things are Trust, Understanding and Acceptance. For a relationship to work on a base level one needs to have trust in their partner, without trust, things like jealously, anger and misunderstandings can occur. Understanding is something I think needs to be between partners, it is where you may not fully agree with certain things your partner does, or how they act or things they say, but you understand it, if it’s a problem you try to help them through it without judging. Which leads to Acceptance, everyone is different, we all have very different ways of looking at the world, relationships, people, and I believe it’s very important in a relationship to have acceptance of your partners faults and well as they good things they do. You come to a realization of who your partner is and you accept them for that and do not try to change them to suit your own mould.
What would make me happy in a monogamous relationship?
I can honestly say there’s nothing that would make me happy in even a short term monogamous relationship. It’s not who I am and not in my nature to be that way. It would only cause strife, resentment, and depression in myself and towards those I love.
What would make me happy in a polyamourous relationship?
In a polyamourous relationship I need my partners to be accepting of me, I need to feel loved and made to feel good about myself. Having my primary partner in the same city would be something I would like very much, though I am not opposed to having partners living long-distance either. I’d like everyone involved to meet and talk, Ideally it would be wonderful to have my partners meet and like each other, and perhaps even be friends. However I also know that some people simply do not get on and assuming a partner will get along with someone because you like them Is a little foolish. It would be wonderful, however I do not think its how the world works. Your tastes my differ from partner to partner and if conflicts arise from that then discussions need to happen on all sides. I’m fairly open to suggestions when it comes to boundaries and restrictions around primaries, as a lot of this is still new to me, I don’t tend to make any myself simply because I do not feel any desire or need to. Usually the only type of partner I will disapprove of will be somebody that I know is not good for my partner, ie: in an emotional or physical safety type of way.
Intimacy is something I feel is built between partners who have strong feelings for one another. It can be sexual and non-sexual and is most dependant on the emotions involved and the deep understanding between partners.
How do I define sex?
Sexual acts leading to but not necessarily culminating in orgasm.
How do I define sexual intercourse?
Would have to agree about it being a type of penetrative sex.
What are the most important things for a healthy relationship?
This is a hard question to answer but I believe for me the most important things are Trust, Understanding and Acceptance. For a relationship to work on a base level one needs to have trust in their partner, without trust, things like jealously, anger and misunderstandings can occur. Understanding is something I think needs to be between partners, it is where you may not fully agree with certain things your partner does, or how they act or things they say, but you understand it, if it’s a problem you try to help them through it without judging. Which leads to Acceptance, everyone is different, we all have very different ways of looking at the world, relationships, people, and I believe it’s very important in a relationship to have acceptance of your partners faults and well as they good things they do. You come to a realization of who your partner is and you accept them for that and do not try to change them to suit your own mould.
What would make me happy in a monogamous relationship?
I can honestly say there’s nothing that would make me happy in even a short term monogamous relationship. It’s not who I am and not in my nature to be that way. It would only cause strife, resentment, and depression in myself and towards those I love.
What would make me happy in a polyamourous relationship?
In a polyamourous relationship I need my partners to be accepting of me, I need to feel loved and made to feel good about myself. Having my primary partner in the same city would be something I would like very much, though I am not opposed to having partners living long-distance either. I’d like everyone involved to meet and talk, Ideally it would be wonderful to have my partners meet and like each other, and perhaps even be friends. However I also know that some people simply do not get on and assuming a partner will get along with someone because you like them Is a little foolish. It would be wonderful, however I do not think its how the world works. Your tastes my differ from partner to partner and if conflicts arise from that then discussions need to happen on all sides. I’m fairly open to suggestions when it comes to boundaries and restrictions around primaries, as a lot of this is still new to me, I don’t tend to make any myself simply because I do not feel any desire or need to. Usually the only type of partner I will disapprove of will be somebody that I know is not good for my partner, ie: in an emotional or physical safety type of way.