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I can't remember the last time I've gotten in a "fight" with someone. I mean, I've argued with people, sure, but it hasn't led to a fight in a really long time. And I've cut a couple of people out of my life here and there, but in the long run, it is people that I don't care about. So I don't consider those "fights".
To fight is to care about someone. If you don't care enough, then instead of fighting, you do nothing. And that's where friendships and relationships go wrong. It should never get to the point where you don't care enough to keep fighting for it. That's a miserable feeling, knowing that you let it get that far.
I'm currently watching two people in my life fight right now, and it seems like neither of them really know what they're fighting about or how to make it stop. But I hope they can resolve it quickly, because when they get along together, they are two of the funniest girls I've ever met. They complement one another. And it's a complete waste for them to be hurt or upset.
The other reason I know I haven't been in a fight in a long time is because I haven't written anyone a letter. Which is what I usually do when I get mad at someone.
I wrote so many letters in high school to people that I loved and cared about. Mostly because there is so much drama in high school, there were just more things to get in fights about. But writing letters was my way of resolving it.
When you write to someone, you can just put everything out in the open. They aren't standing in front of you, judging you, and they can't yell or cry and make you forget what you were saying. You can think about what the person would say in response to each of your points, and you can address that without them interrupting in person. You can even go over your words a million times until you get them just right.
It's been a really long time since I've written one. I wonder if anybody ever saved them. I save everything, so if someone had written me one, I would have it somewhere.. haha.
But it makes me happy knowing that I've grown up enough not to fight with people over stupid things that don't matter. And I've grown to realize that some things, although they are important, aren't worth fighting over and hating each other for, because that gets you nowhere. All it does is lead to hurt feelings and things you said that you wish you could take back.
But never forget that if you're fighting in the first place, it means that deep down, a part of you truly cares. The question is, do you care enough to stop fighting and fix it?
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To fight is to care about someone. If you don't care enough, then instead of fighting, you do nothing. And that's where friendships and relationships go wrong. It should never get to the point where you don't care enough to keep fighting for it. That's a miserable feeling, knowing that you let it get that far.
I'm currently watching two people in my life fight right now, and it seems like neither of them really know what they're fighting about or how to make it stop. But I hope they can resolve it quickly, because when they get along together, they are two of the funniest girls I've ever met. They complement one another. And it's a complete waste for them to be hurt or upset.
The other reason I know I haven't been in a fight in a long time is because I haven't written anyone a letter. Which is what I usually do when I get mad at someone.
I wrote so many letters in high school to people that I loved and cared about. Mostly because there is so much drama in high school, there were just more things to get in fights about. But writing letters was my way of resolving it.
When you write to someone, you can just put everything out in the open. They aren't standing in front of you, judging you, and they can't yell or cry and make you forget what you were saying. You can think about what the person would say in response to each of your points, and you can address that without them interrupting in person. You can even go over your words a million times until you get them just right.
It's been a really long time since I've written one. I wonder if anybody ever saved them. I save everything, so if someone had written me one, I would have it somewhere.. haha.
But it makes me happy knowing that I've grown up enough not to fight with people over stupid things that don't matter. And I've grown to realize that some things, although they are important, aren't worth fighting over and hating each other for, because that gets you nowhere. All it does is lead to hurt feelings and things you said that you wish you could take back.
But never forget that if you're fighting in the first place, it means that deep down, a part of you truly cares. The question is, do you care enough to stop fighting and fix it?
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k.