Share your coming out story?

[lokifan]

Still ill... and all this sleeping has screwed with my schedule, which is why I’m posting now! Violet’s ill too, she might have given her girlfriend glandular fever, and Miss Godfrey’s got an old-man cough going on. EVERYONE IS ILL. And the campus medical centre has a horrible receptionist - she’s one of those people I could deal with easily on a

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[ebilgatoloco]

-hugs-

I hope you get better soon. It's no fun to be sick.

I wish I could give you a story for NCOD, but alas. I can say that over the past couple of years [two or three], I've discovered and learn to accept that women turn me on, but I don't know that I'd ever date one. I don't know if I could take that leap.

[lokifan]

Thanks! I've felt really nauseous the last few days, which is scary... plz no glandular fever, universe.

Fair enough - I've known a few women who were turned on by girls but didn't actually want sex with them etc. Or is it more that going out with a womann would feel a lot different? I take it you haven't 'come out', either way...

[ebilgatoloco]

No, I haven't 'come out' Lol. If I had to label myself, I'd say I'm heterosexual with an appreciation for women. Going out with a woman is unfamiliar territory, and while I'm curious, it would be too different for me. I think.

=]

[lokifan]

:) I've never found it different - but then I live my life surrounded by my rainbow tribe!

[anna_unfolding]

Is the focus of the stories supposed to be the TELLING of others? The coming out to them? Or the Coming Out as in, OH, NOW I KNOW I AM GAY. More of an internal thing. You're probably going to say "either one" but they are really different. REALLY. I'd be happy to write a story or two up for you. It will distract me from my tour bus porn fic of woe, otherwise known as The One That Should Have Ended in Blowjobs But Got Hijacked By Weepy Emo BOYZ.

Deadline?

[lokifan]

Definitely telling of others. I mean, possibly the realisation would work, but I absolutely see this as about telling of others - as a Day and as our particular thing :)

Deadline - like ten hours! Because I suck. But then 200 words, y'know, is short.

TERRIBLY APPRECIATIVE, LOVELY. Especially for having a later-in-life-coming-out story, I think that's a really important aspect of things.

Oh dear :(( I'm struggling with my snaco_exchange fic, which keeps wanting to be schmoopy. I CAN'T HELP IT. I ALWAYS WANT SNAPE/DRACO FLUFF.

[anna_unfolding]

200 words is hardly anything, bb. I will rework. Give me 20 minutes.

[anna_unfolding]

Here you go! My first attempt was 600 words and was about my parents. Ugh. This one is just under 200. Use it however you need to

[utteramusement]

Hah mine are quite happy and uneventful actually

[lokifan]

:) Good thing too! I love your coming out story, hee. Truth-or-dare is a great way to do it. And I like your mum's approach. I had to tell mine faster than I meant to - my dad was away at the time and we'd fought about me not talking to him about stuff, so I didn't want to come out while he was abroad. Only then Mum was like 'you seem sad' - I'd just had a fight with the best friend over the bi thing - and when I said I couldn't explain til Dad got back she looked REALLY worried and was obviously thinking I was pregnant or expelled or on crack or something. So I was like, "it's fine, I'm just bisexual!" and she was like "THANK GOD YOU'RE NOT PREGNANT" lolol.

[cu_sith]

I'd be happy to, but I'm not sure my Official, First-Time Coming Out Story amounts to more than a paragraph.

[lokifan]

:) Well, you can always use a later one - and/or short is good! When I told my mum she was just like "yeah, we thought you might be a lesbian" and that was that. But I think she was partly just relieved cos she knew I was upset (I'd just had my first fight with the best friend over this) and I'd said I couldn't explain until my dad got home from a month-long work trip. Then I changed my mind cos she obviously thought I was pregnant or on drugs.

[lullula]

I think it's difficult to have a coming out story when you don't know what you even are to come out as, if that makes sense? I definitely think of myself as bisexual, but I feel like I don't really know that since I've had no experience either way

[lokifan]

Fair enough. Personally I tend to think that experience isn't all that necessary to know - I mean, nobody expects straight people to have sex before they can really, properly know they're attracted to the opposite gender. I think most of it's about who you fancy, you know, internally.

Aww, lovely. It's a hard old life, isn't it? Coming out especially. I try to make it obvious sometimes without having to tell people... it's just awkward, saying "I'm bisexual", especially when people feel obliged to start saying how supportive they are and how their Uncle Ben is gay.

*hugs* It is! Thanks for the hot honey and lemon!

[lullula]

Ack, I didn't mean to suggest that like, anyone who has no experience must be unsure - I just mean that yes I'm turned on by images of men and women, but I don't know, personally, what my reactions would be when I was actually with someone. Of course you (general) can know to whom you're attracted without ever touching a single other person, and you're absolutely right that no one is expected to prove that they're straight with a CV of previous partners or anything. *flail*

It wasn't really that bad, but in retrospect it explains a couple of things XD;; And yeah, I would find it awkward to come out to someone - it's not like I need their reassurance or anything, y'know? It's great Uncle Ben is gay, but unless he's hopping into bed with me, I'm not sure I care, haha.

v..v;;;; Did I just come off as completely self-centred and cold-hearted? I THINK I DID. Haha.

[lokifan]

Hey no, lovely, it's fine! You're talking about your own personal experience not Those Silly Gays and I totally get that! Not self-centred or hard-hearted at ALL. I just meant that your reactions might be different in RL but you can probably trust your response to images - but you'd know better than me :)

LOLOL yeah, exactly. My roommate has this massive pet peeve over people telling her she's "brave" when she gets a girlfriend/mentions she's bi/does anything 'out and proud'. I'm less bothered but the general theme of "that's nice... you know I'm actually not looking to be reassured that this is fine, I know it's fine..." is definitely one I can sympathise with. Especially since, you know, they're trying to be supportive and some people do want and need the reassurance so you can't just be like *eyeroll*.