Share your coming out story?

[lokifan]

Still ill... and all this sleeping has screwed with my schedule, which is why I’m posting now! Violet’s ill too, she might have given her girlfriend glandular fever, and Miss Godfrey’s got an old-man cough going on. EVERYONE IS ILL. And the campus medical centre has a horrible receptionist - she’s one of those people I could deal with easily on a

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[lullula]

I think it's difficult to have a coming out story when you don't know what you even are to come out as, if that makes sense? I definitely think of myself as bisexual, but I feel like I don't really know that since I've had no experience either way...

Still, if it's any use, I sort of came out to my friends?

Everyone in our year had gone on a school trip, to this slightly creepy castle, I think we were probably around 12, although I'm not sure. Me and my two best friends were sitting around talking and gossiping - I think we were talking about someone who was confused about being bisexual, and it was a topic of gossip all around the school. I screwed up what very little courage I had and told them I was bisexual as well, but I don't think they heard me and I wasn't brave enough to repeat myself. Ever since then, I've never really told anyone else (in real life), although there have been times when I've tried to make it obvious enough that people could guess.

I hope that's useful~

Also, feel better soon! *hugs and sends hot honey and lemon*

[lokifan]

Fair enough. Personally I tend to think that experience isn't all that necessary to know - I mean, nobody expects straight people to have sex before they can really, properly know they're attracted to the opposite gender. I think most of it's about who you fancy, you know, internally.

Aww, lovely. It's a hard old life, isn't it? Coming out especially. I try to make it obvious sometimes without having to tell people... it's just awkward, saying "I'm bisexual", especially when people feel obliged to start saying how supportive they are and how their Uncle Ben is gay.

*hugs* It is! Thanks for the hot honey and lemon!

[lullula]

Ack, I didn't mean to suggest that like, anyone who has no experience must be unsure - I just mean that yes I'm turned on by images of men and women, but I don't know, personally, what my reactions would be when I was actually with someone. Of course you (general) can know to whom you're attracted without ever touching a single other person, and you're absolutely right that no one is expected to prove that they're straight with a CV of previous partners or anything. *flail*

It wasn't really that bad, but in retrospect it explains a couple of things XD;; And yeah, I would find it awkward to come out to someone - it's not like I need their reassurance or anything, y'know? It's great Uncle Ben is gay, but unless he's hopping into bed with me, I'm not sure I care, haha.

v..v;;;; Did I just come off as completely self-centred and cold-hearted? I THINK I DID. Haha.

[lokifan]

Hey no, lovely, it's fine! You're talking about your own personal experience not Those Silly Gays and I totally get that! Not self-centred or hard-hearted at ALL. I just meant that your reactions might be different in RL but you can probably trust your response to images - but you'd know better than me :)

LOLOL yeah, exactly. My roommate has this massive pet peeve over people telling her she's "brave" when she gets a girlfriend/mentions she's bi/does anything 'out and proud'. I'm less bothered but the general theme of "that's nice... you know I'm actually not looking to be reassured that this is fine, I know it's fine..." is definitely one I can sympathise with. Especially since, you know, they're trying to be supportive and some people do want and need the reassurance so you can't just be like *eyeroll*.