What's with all the disrespect?
I can't believe how people take advantage of me, or try to bulldoze right over my will. I've been told that, because I am soft spoken and kind, people think they can walk right over me, and I won't mind. I've often heard people say things like, "I normally wouldn't do this, but I know you'll forgive me." Then, if and when I protest, I'm accused of being fake. "I guess you're not as nice as you make yourself out to be. I always knew you were fake," they say.
Honey, I'm not fake. It's just that, in my interactions with the human race, I love both the person/people I'm dealing with AND myself. Because I love myself, I have no problem saying no, if someone asks me to do something that's too much for me, or with which I'm uncomfortable. I make myself a priority. I live with myself 24/7, and I don't do things that I sense will make me feel bad later. I reserve the right to have a comfort zone. I reserve the right to put myself first. Someone else's emotions and mind are not a higher priority than my emotions and mind.
Believe it or not, saying no is the best thing I can do for other people I encounter. By saying no, I never grow to resent anyone for "making" (in quotes, because often no one has actually MADE anyone do anything when this accusation is given) me do something I didn't want to do. Saying no keeps me sane and happy. It weeds people from my life who are only out to get what they want from me, instead of wanting a relationship with me for my company.
I find myself writing on this topic a lot on this journal. It's because I keep running into the issue with a bunch of different people. If I didn't know better, I'd think I had the word "doormat" written on my forehead. *sigh* Oh, well. There's nothing I can do but shake it off and move on, with my head held high and a smile on my face, despite the nature of the human race.
Honey, I'm not fake. It's just that, in my interactions with the human race, I love both the person/people I'm dealing with AND myself. Because I love myself, I have no problem saying no, if someone asks me to do something that's too much for me, or with which I'm uncomfortable. I make myself a priority. I live with myself 24/7, and I don't do things that I sense will make me feel bad later. I reserve the right to have a comfort zone. I reserve the right to put myself first. Someone else's emotions and mind are not a higher priority than my emotions and mind.
Believe it or not, saying no is the best thing I can do for other people I encounter. By saying no, I never grow to resent anyone for "making" (in quotes, because often no one has actually MADE anyone do anything when this accusation is given) me do something I didn't want to do. Saying no keeps me sane and happy. It weeds people from my life who are only out to get what they want from me, instead of wanting a relationship with me for my company.
I find myself writing on this topic a lot on this journal. It's because I keep running into the issue with a bunch of different people. If I didn't know better, I'd think I had the word "doormat" written on my forehead. *sigh* Oh, well. There's nothing I can do but shake it off and move on, with my head held high and a smile on my face, despite the nature of the human race.