Reprinted for the Benefit of Others

[lana_faith]

I think I am going to cry. This letter just came in my email. I think it's important to see what transwomen go through with their families. I wish there was a better, less impactful way to do this, but maybe it's better just to let it be. The letter is printed inits entirety. Only my boy name was altered to "S

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[anonymous]

[anonymous]

Re: Go Away

[anonymous]

I feel for you girl. I am sorry that you are having a hard time with your family. But-you sound like you could use some anger management. She is just speaking her mind. If she is lying, then ignore. Be better than her. No need to be soooo hateful. The only thing it will do is justify her. (Just smile and remember-you are better than that :)

Re: Go Away

[lana_faith]

Ok ok you're probably right. Truth is, it was just one thing too many for that shitty day. I'm glad it's over and behind me. Like I said in a previous post, I'm stronger in the broken places.

Re: one more thing

[lana_faith]

You're sweet. Did you read the asinine post from a friend of CBFF's? (sigh) All I can say is, they'll find out in time. They can't say I didn't warn them.

[anonymous]

Hey lana

[tgirlvalentine]

Looks like life has thrown you a couple of lemons, for that I apologize, b/c it's a bit cold for lemonade...but if you cut it right, you can squeeze some in your tea, add some honey (and maybe some jack-daniels...you know if you've a cold) and Voila! Something digestable!

I"m sorry i've not been in contact. I've been going through my own pesonal drama and maybe even a bit of Draema (pronuced like the a in pat, instead of an ah sound...draema being things we make big issues of that dont need to be...mostly to be used by ..tword.. those who who always seem to say "oh..my gawd! you'll never guess what happend to ME today.." or perhaps " i can't believe she slept with my boyfriend"..when he wasn't her boyfriend but just a fuck buddy..just a few examples..not mine personally but yeah) I've been away from LiveJournal as well. Anyway, i added you to my friends list. I hoep things have been looking better for you and that your holy days have been, atleast for moment or two, joyus!

always

Mikaela

OH yeah..

[tgirlvalentine]

And as to your mother, i must say i'm sorry. She is reacting right now. Sadly she reminds me of one fo those 'tele-evangalists' preaching about 'normal' and 'right' and 'faimly'. She's also laying on the guilt hard core. You may, or may not, have moved past this, but here's a bit of "widsome" for you. It's her problem, not yours. It sounds kinda bitchy, but if you think about it you'll come to realize it's truth. She's trying to hold you accountable for feelings that she's having, and issues she's trying to deal with. She also, it seems, stands in judgement of you (which sadly is a very christian thing to do). I dont know yoru faith, and i will say that i am not christian. But indeed God doesnt' create junk, God doesnt' make mistakes...but who are we, as humans...who are but a tiny collection of atoms in the grand view of the universe...to judge what God wills? How are we to truely comprehend what a being of such Divine power could be thinking? A being that is (to me) both male and female, yet neither and both. (without of course

Re: OH yeah..

[lana_faith]

I think we're all a work in progress. And yeah, I hear what you're saying about my mom. I think you're right. She's trying to lay a lot of guilt on me for her own issues and feelings. She needs to work them out on her own before we will ever be able to start a meaningful relationship.

Yanno, I used to think it would be such a difficult thing to love someone like me... a transperson. But after having a child of my own, I find that that was a very egocentric view. Lennon is my son. My one and ONLY child. If he came up to me and said "mom, I think I'm a girl", or some other shocking news, I wouldn't love him any less for it. In fact, I think It'd make me love him more... knowing that he trusted me enough to share such an intimate detail of his life with me. What an honor that would be!

I suppose this, as with a lot of things in life, is about learning. We learn who our true friends and loved ones are - because they're the ones who, whether or not they even understand, love you still.

Re: OH yeah..

[tgirlvalentine]

indeed; you should watch the move "ma vie en rose" (my life in pink). A french film about a boy, 7, who IS a girl and the troubles it causes to the faimly. I cried so hard! but it's such a good movie, with a good ending!

Re: OH yeah..

[lana_faith]

I've heard about that one. ::makes a mental note to check it out::

thanks, sis. :)