Reprinted for the Benefit of Others

[lana_faith]

I think I am going to cry. This letter just came in my email. I think it's important to see what transwomen go through with their families. I wish there was a better, less impactful way to do this, but maybe it's better just to let it be. The letter is printed inits entirety. Only my boy name was altered to "S

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[tgirlvalentine]

And as to your mother, i must say i'm sorry. She is reacting right now. Sadly she reminds me of one fo those 'tele-evangalists' preaching about 'normal' and 'right' and 'faimly'. She's also laying on the guilt hard core. You may, or may not, have moved past this, but here's a bit of "widsome" for you. It's her problem, not yours. It sounds kinda bitchy, but if you think about it you'll come to realize it's truth. She's trying to hold you accountable for feelings that she's having, and issues she's trying to deal with. She also, it seems, stands in judgement of you (which sadly is a very christian thing to do). I dont know yoru faith, and i will say that i am not christian. But indeed God doesnt' create junk, God doesnt' make mistakes...but who are we, as humans...who are but a tiny collection of atoms in the grand view of the universe...to judge what God wills? How are we to truely comprehend what a being of such Divine power could be thinking? A being that is (to me) both male and female, yet neither and both. (without of course having "multiple personality disorder" ::winks::..thast purly a human issue!!) Who can truely judge what God could want? All we can do is live true to our Self and that which our Self guides us to do and be.

Your faimly has their own issues, but you dont need to make those issues yours. hell you've got enough to cope with i'm sure! If she wants to love you uncondionally and respect the decision (wheter she agrees or not), then great, be a part of my life! if not, then perhaps you dont need them to be such a "large" part of your life.

of course i say this and i've not told my faimly anything yet. I did give a letter to my stepmom after my dad and i argued b/c he wanted to know what was going on in my head...but i dotn know if he read it...it was a bit much though. Alot of thigns I needed to et out, but he doestn need to read. :;Shrugs:: But i've gone through years where i didn't speak to anyone in my family. not b/c we were fueding or anything, but just b/c we didnt' call eachother.

Anyway. Believe this, if you will...God is Love. You've read my journal entry with the word from "the Prophet" (by kahlil gibran) "on Love". God is Love, unconditionall b/c God is the very MEANING of Diversity. You are worth Love b/c you are alive and a being of Divine power, just like everyone else ::winks:: ..i'm still workin on believing in the worth myself, but hey, it's movement!

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[lana_faith]

I think we're all a work in progress. And yeah, I hear what you're saying about my mom. I think you're right. She's trying to lay a lot of guilt on me for her own issues and feelings. She needs to work them out on her own before we will ever be able to start a meaningful relationship.

Yanno, I used to think it would be such a difficult thing to love someone like me... a transperson. But after having a child of my own, I find that that was a very egocentric view. Lennon is my son. My one and ONLY child. If he came up to me and said "mom, I think I'm a girl", or some other shocking news, I wouldn't love him any less for it. In fact, I think It'd make me love him more... knowing that he trusted me enough to share such an intimate detail of his life with me. What an honor that would be!

I suppose this, as with a lot of things in life, is about learning. We learn who our true friends and loved ones are - because they're the ones who, whether or not they even understand, love you still.

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[tgirlvalentine]

indeed; you should watch the move "ma vie en rose" (my life in pink). A french film about a boy, 7, who IS a girl and the troubles it causes to the faimly. I cried so hard! but it's such a good movie, with a good ending!

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[lana_faith]

I've heard about that one. ::makes a mental note to check it out::

thanks, sis. :)

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[tgirlvalentine]

yw ! :;hugs:: just have plenty of tissue and maybe another GF there with you!

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[lana_faith]

so it's definitely not a 'date' movie then eh?

oh and I added you as a friend. welcome to my inner circle, chica!

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[tgirlvalentine]

ahhh thank you! ::huggles:: it could be a date movie, if it's with someone your comfortable with...perhaps they can hold you while you sob! =0)

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[lana_faith]

alas and alack i have no one to fit that description.

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[tgirlvalentine]

yeah me niether. but we watched at our tg group. although i sat by myself ...bunch of lesbians ::winks:: crazy bunch of lesbians at that! it's a good movie though, and for you personally i think it will hit kinda hard!

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[lana_faith]

oh god that sounds dangerous indeed. I watched Secondhand Lions last night... and just about bawled myself to sleep.

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[tgirlvalentine]

i've not seen second hand lions, but "ma vie en rose" deals very much with family. and the ending ...oh...so sweet...i balled. =0)

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[lana_faith]

Secondhand Lions has that kid from A.I. and Sixth Sense and Pay it Forward in it. Haley Joe Osment. He's a pretty talented little actor! And growing up quick too... he's not quite the cute lil kid he used to be. I'm gonna go rent that movie one of these days, when I have someone to snuggle with. For now, I don't think I need any more sadness in my life.

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[tgirlvalentine]

true. true. Watch some disney cartoons then =0) and some comedies!