Dude, I got fat.

[kylecassidy]

WTF dude, I got fat

Trillian and I went to an event where she was promoting a new play and a few days later, someone sent us some photos. Being behind the camera you rarely see yourself and when I opened the email, there was no denying it ... somehow since the last time I'd frozen the mental picture of how I looked, I got fat.

Comments

[ysobelle]

I think what I have to get down to first is facing why I'm on such a self-destructive path. I think that might be as hard for me as getting my ass to the gym.

[scarletwildfire]

That's also kinda where I'm at. I *want* to be healthy. I've *tried* to be healthy. But I go back to the stupidity of not paying a lick of attention and stuffing my face for sympathy time and time again. Lots of people can tell me I have to create better habits when I hit triggers, but until I *really* dig in and get to the root of it, it doesn't mean much.

It took me 5 tries to give up smoking for good. Once I even quit for 3 years and then went back. But it's been 3+ years this time and I'm not going back and knew I wasn't from the day I finally said "no" and meant it. I admit I turned to food to plug that gap too and that hasn't helped my already poor habits.

I feel shame. I see pictures and feel despair. And yet, it's still not enough for me to get off my ass and do something about it. The bf and I have been talking about this a lot lately. He's in the same boat as me. I think that having that support network and getting on the path with someone else in the same place and time would help me greatly. It's gotta be

[kylecassidy]

The support network and a gym buddy are huge things. The numbers really helped me too, charting things. But wanting it to happen, for me, was really the only thing that was going to make it happen. Having someone supportive, and access to a gym ... that makes it sustainable, for me. That first step is the biggest one -- but it gets easier after that. Let me know how it goes. Hugs & well wishes & encouragement from me & everyone here.

[scarletwildfire]

Thanks a bunch. I am also an analyzer so tracking such things helps me stick to them. (Being from the business world one of my mantras is: things that aren't measured aren't managed.) I used an app called MyFitnessPal the last time and that helped, of course - until I stopped using it.

I just need to lay out the plan and get from the "plan" phase to the "act" phase cuz until then I'm just feeling sorry for myself.

Thank you for the encouragement.

[raven_calder]

Awesome, dude! Myself, am in the "not happy with body" phase, a place I've been before, and fixed before. I can't seem to stay committed this time or get that fire under my ass...You posting this helps make me think more about my own health and self image.

[opium]

Check out 80/10/10 by Douglas Graham and Eat to Live by Joel Fuhrman

[raven_calder]

Unless you're someone like me who doesn't process carbs well, and becomes hypoglycemic. The thing is, there is no one routine fits all. We are all different.

[opium]

All people have the same internal organs. I know someone who cured her hypoglycemia by eating mostly fruit. You should digest fruit no problem, we are totally made for it !:)

[opium]

Adding in my transformation photos :

4 months on raw diet, NO exercise (though I did have gobs more energy and moved around a lot more)

[kylecassidy]

Inspirational.

One of the things I realized was that losing weight is simple, which is not to be confused with "easy". The math is simple, and you can look at easily identifiable numbers and know what you have to do. But doing that - giving up X or changing Y habit or
exercising Z, can be very difficult. Thanks so much for posting these.

[opium]

It can be difficult yes, but if you have enough reason, then it's quite easy.

I actually went raw to fix my mental health - when I realized what processed sugar was doing to my brain, not to mention other foods, it was easy to give it up. Animal foods were easy to give up once I knew the horror that went on to consume them. Once you know what certain things actually do to your body OTHER than make you gain weight (that is not often enough to make people stop eating them) then it is "easier" to give them up. If you have a substitute it is a lot easier. When I found out I could have raw chocolate and wouldn't have to give up chocolate completely, I was sold. And now I barely ever eat it anyway, I have NO cravings because I eat enough carbs - the only things I ever CRAVE are savory foods.

And as for exercise - you just have to find an activity you find enjoyable. Simple. I don't exercise, I play.

[redmorlock]

[kylecassidy]

I also discovered that as soon as you start, somebody, or a bunch of somebodies, is going to tell you you're doing something wrong. That you're not eating enough, that you need more fat/carbs, that you should be happy however you are, whatever -- that jungle was tough to navigate too. I was actually surprised that this concept of "fit acceptance" even existed. (I didn't know it had a name until you mentioned it, but I've seen whatever the opposite is.) Thanks for posting this.