visiting my bio-family?
So my mother and sister are living together in my mother's 3-bedroom house. With my sister's 5 kids. After listening to my sister bitch about how awful my mother's being (and adding in some off-the-wall-awful remarks from my grandmother), I'm really not that interested in visiting them this year...
The problem is that my grandparents are very likely not long for this world -- grandpa's on an oxygen tank for emphysema and grandma's on a one-way train to dementiaville. I'd be shocked if one of them survived the other for very long (meaning, I'd be surprised if, after one died, the other lived longer than 2-3 months). They've been married for over 50 years, happily, despite their constant bitching and nagging at each other.
But damned if my family isn't crazy toxic. The only person I seem to get along with is my sister.
Even if I completely disregard the difficulties of trying to figure out where we'd actually sleep (on a blow-up mattress on the floor somewhere amidst the stench of cat urine?), do I really want to spend money we shouldn't spend to try to get all four of us down there for a number of days to spend time with my family, most of whom I don't get along with and don't care to see? I feel obligated but I'm not the least bit happy about it and am looking for excuses to get out of going. I don't like them. Like, really don't like them (meaning all of them but my sister -- she's ok).
What questions should I be asking myself?
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The problem is that my grandparents are very likely not long for this world -- grandpa's on an oxygen tank for emphysema and grandma's on a one-way train to dementiaville. I'd be shocked if one of them survived the other for very long (meaning, I'd be surprised if, after one died, the other lived longer than 2-3 months). They've been married for over 50 years, happily, despite their constant bitching and nagging at each other.
But damned if my family isn't crazy toxic. The only person I seem to get along with is my sister.
Even if I completely disregard the difficulties of trying to figure out where we'd actually sleep (on a blow-up mattress on the floor somewhere amidst the stench of cat urine?), do I really want to spend money we shouldn't spend to try to get all four of us down there for a number of days to spend time with my family, most of whom I don't get along with and don't care to see? I feel obligated but I'm not the least bit happy about it and am looking for excuses to get out of going. I don't like them. Like, really don't like them (meaning all of them but my sister -- she's ok).
What questions should I be asking myself?
This entry was originally posted at http://tulikettu.dreamwidth.org/506365.html. Please comment there using OpenID.