So he did it. After we shared beautiful, emotional moments this weekend and Monday...he went and got cold feet on em again. Why can't he just grow up
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Wow... that sounds like such a worry of mine - that if, by some insane miracle, I met a girl who both liked me and, unlike myself, could actually communicate said feeling, that I'd lock up and not know what to do, and ruin the chance. But I certainly wouldn't actively run away from the chance.
On the other hand, it's no surprise that, on our dorm wiki, significant others top the list of "things that suck your free time" - "(equivalent to three extra units, plus lab)" according to said page, and I kind of understand the worry of time commitment, but I doubt that would make it not utterly worth it. He says from the sidelines, without any of the relevent experience whatsoever :D.
Sucks being in a mostly one way relationship. I've been there before, though to a lesser degree. The logical thing to do would be to realize that it's probably never going to work out because of his commitment issues and move on. But then again love is rarely rational.
Unfortunately from my experience things can only go two ways in these situations; either he finally opens up to himself and others, allowing the emotional attachment that seems to scare him off so much.
Or you must move on, content with keeping him as a friend and allowing yourself to love him, even though you can't act on it. You never really do stop loving someone, at least from my experience. Either one will be hard; the first waiting for him to open up, the second bearing the pain of forcing a separation and moving on.
Since you've more experience with love than I, or have potentially such experience considering you've got a few years on me. :)
Sounds to me like you just need a hug and someone to hang out with and vent over coffee or drinks. I can only offer a phantom version of the former.. *HUG* But I'm always here for the venting. :)
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On the other hand, it's no surprise that, on our dorm wiki, significant others top the list of "things that suck your free time" - "(equivalent to three extra units, plus lab)" according to said page, and I kind of understand the worry of time commitment, but I doubt that would make it not utterly worth it. He says from the sidelines, without any of the relevent experience whatsoever :D.
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Or you must move on, content with keeping him as a friend and allowing yourself to love him, even though you can't act on it. You never really do stop loving someone, at least from my experience. Either one will be hard; the first waiting for him to open up, the second bearing the pain of forcing a separation and moving on.
Since you've more experience with love than I, or have potentially such experience considering you've got a few years on me. :)
Sounds to me like you just need a hug and someone to hang out with and vent over coffee or drinks. I can only offer a phantom version of the former.. *HUG* But I'm always here for the venting. :)
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Yeah, I need a hug, but none of my "friends" are around. Tends to be the story of my life.
You're right, of course. Thank you...And I know you've been gong thru your own share lately too. <***HUG ( ... )
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