So he did it. After we shared beautiful, emotional moments this weekend and Monday...he went and got cold feet on em again. Why can't he just grow up
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*HUGS* "Love is the only rational act." I forget whose quote that is, but dear, you are far from foolish. And even if you were, I'd way out-foolish you, try reading some of my posts about Cody....
I'm really sorry to hear that things aren't going well with him. I wish it were easy, I wish it would work out for you. It sounds like your boy has quite a few issues that he needs to deal with in order to be in a relationship, with you or anyone else. I sadly see in him quite a bit of myself. I tend to be skittish and find trusting my feelings and my potential partner difficult.
Here's my advice, for whatever it's worth: My guess is that he needs someone patient and resilient. Not someone who will wait on the sidelines for him to figure out what he wants, but who will steadily care and be there for him even when he's confused, who won't take it personally when he freaks out because she knows that it's his issue, not hers, and who will confront him in a non-threatening manner when things go awry. It's a tall order for a potential girlfriend. If you're up for it, I'd advise talking turkey with him about what's going on, giving him the opportunity to decide that he wants to try working through his issues. If it's more than you can give right now, then take pride in knowing you love him, and no one, not even him can take that away from you.
"Love is the only rational act." I forget whose quote that is, but dear, you are far from foolish. And even if you were, I'd way out-foolish you, try reading some of my posts about Cody....
I'm really sorry to hear that things aren't going well with him. I wish it were easy, I wish it would work out for you. It sounds like your boy has quite a few issues that he needs to deal with in order to be in a relationship, with you or anyone else. I sadly see in him quite a bit of myself. I tend to be skittish and find trusting my feelings and my potential partner difficult.
Here's my advice, for whatever it's worth: My guess is that he needs someone patient and resilient. Not someone who will wait on the sidelines for him to figure out what he wants, but who will steadily care and be there for him even when he's confused, who won't take it personally when he freaks out because she knows that it's his issue, not hers, and who will confront him in a non-threatening manner when things go awry. It's a tall order for a potential girlfriend. If you're up for it, I'd advise talking turkey with him about what's going on, giving him the opportunity to decide that he wants to try working through his issues. If it's more than you can give right now, then take pride in knowing you love him, and no one, not even him can take that away from you.
I wish you the best. *HUGS*
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