i am not your concern
I told my Friday night DM that I would no longer be attending Friday night sessions of D&D, although I will continue Sunday sessions with the other group. This, I told him, was mainly because of The Douchebag, whose continued presence and general repulsiveness makes my Friday nights more stressful than pleasurable.
To give you an example: in the last session, he made more sexist comments, discussed crude and insulting names of female genitalia right in front of me and the DM's girlfriend, who doesn't like hearing about it, denied lived experience as having any significance in any discussion about prejudice, and insulted efforts to make heroes with handicaps, saying that Darwin doesn't want handicapped people to succeed.
I've been considering leaving for months, thinking that I wanted to stick through despite the atmosphere. I've played this game for six years and I've always enjoyed the rich and dynamic storyline the DM has provided for us. However, since the Douchebag is an argumentative pain in the ass, we rarely get much accomplished lately, and the game is dragging on longer and longer. I thought I'd be able to make it through, but I can't stomach the offensiveness and his inability to behave in a way that makes it more comfortable for me.
I thought I'd be more sad about the decision than I am. The game's been a big part of my life for a while now, but I just feel relieved, like I'm cutting away a dead weight. Hopefully that takes care of that and I won't have to deal with drama calls from Douchebag. I hope I can trust the DM not to make a public issue of the fact I left due to Douchebag's misbehavior and to leave it at me leaving because of the lack of movement. Not that I don't think I can confront him, but because I know there's absolutely no point talking to the jerk about anything. He views everything as a struggle for dominance and apologizing apparently damages his masculinity. Not something I need to deal with.
Apparently my decision came on the heels of him having an ugly screaming fight with an old female friend of his. He's always talking (almost bragging) about how he pisses off all his female friends. Gee, I wonder why. The DM was trying to talk her into mending bridges, but I don't think that's the best situation. The guy never makes the first step to apologize, never attempts to right his wrongs, never shows that basic courtesy and respect towards other people. He deserves to lose friends over that. He doesn't deserve to have any friends.
To give you an example: in the last session, he made more sexist comments, discussed crude and insulting names of female genitalia right in front of me and the DM's girlfriend, who doesn't like hearing about it, denied lived experience as having any significance in any discussion about prejudice, and insulted efforts to make heroes with handicaps, saying that Darwin doesn't want handicapped people to succeed.
I've been considering leaving for months, thinking that I wanted to stick through despite the atmosphere. I've played this game for six years and I've always enjoyed the rich and dynamic storyline the DM has provided for us. However, since the Douchebag is an argumentative pain in the ass, we rarely get much accomplished lately, and the game is dragging on longer and longer. I thought I'd be able to make it through, but I can't stomach the offensiveness and his inability to behave in a way that makes it more comfortable for me.
I thought I'd be more sad about the decision than I am. The game's been a big part of my life for a while now, but I just feel relieved, like I'm cutting away a dead weight. Hopefully that takes care of that and I won't have to deal with drama calls from Douchebag. I hope I can trust the DM not to make a public issue of the fact I left due to Douchebag's misbehavior and to leave it at me leaving because of the lack of movement. Not that I don't think I can confront him, but because I know there's absolutely no point talking to the jerk about anything. He views everything as a struggle for dominance and apologizing apparently damages his masculinity. Not something I need to deal with.
Apparently my decision came on the heels of him having an ugly screaming fight with an old female friend of his. He's always talking (almost bragging) about how he pisses off all his female friends. Gee, I wonder why. The DM was trying to talk her into mending bridges, but I don't think that's the best situation. The guy never makes the first step to apologize, never attempts to right his wrongs, never shows that basic courtesy and respect towards other people. He deserves to lose friends over that. He doesn't deserve to have any friends.