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inslntmarz

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Jul 12, 2004 10:52

I once had a conversation with my uncle (my uncle and i are very open with one another because we're a lot alike and we connect like we're best friends) that if you were in a relationship and you really liked the person, but then had sex with them and it was really bad sex, then the relationship wouldn't last. at the time i was a virgin and ( Read more... )

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WAY too much time on my hands... iluvbarbie July 11 2004, 23:20:49 UTC

here's my two cents worth:
i believe sex is incredibly important, it's a basis of physicaly attraction on eachother and how in touch you are with your partner. good sex = good communication = :] back in pagan beliefs (yes, i know this is getting cheesy) sex was a ritual practiced to get people closer to god; only through a woman, could a man 'see' god through orgasm. :]
sex never has to be bad, bad sex only comes from laziness, most problems can be fixed if people are willing to put in the effort (i, not being one of them haha)
good sex isnt necessarily about the sex... am i making any sense here?
anyhoo, i like good sex and i like a lot of it. :D
if anybody is fitting into the above catagory, please be willing to share your gift as i'm not getting enough of the good stuff! hahaha

Re: WAY too much time on my hands... inslntmarz July 12 2004, 00:09:01 UTC

hehehe thankyou :o)

and i think you make a very valid point about good sex and good communication.

Re: WAY too much time on my hands... jean_e July 12 2004, 05:04:14 UTC

what do you think mara? i want to know your opinion, good journal post but! very interesting topic.

Re: WAY too much time on my hands... inslntmarz July 12 2004, 18:54:38 UTC

my opinion has definately changed since that conversation took place ( ... )

belie July 12 2004, 04:10:12 UTC

How important is sex in a relationship?
i do personaly believe sex is important..
probably one of the most important things in a serious relationship..
a relationship is based on physical attraction..
in all seriousness.. how can one person grow to like a person for what they are like inside without noticing them on the outside first..??
and the ultimate in physical attraction is expressing it.. equaling sex!
so yes.. it is important.

If the sex is bad, is it possible to sustain a relationship and still be happy together?yes and no ( ... )

jean_e July 12 2004, 05:01:27 UTC

those people that wait are rediculas...

what if u wait 6 years and you find she is really really bad... id be so disapointed. like ive allways said. "try before you buy"

belie July 12 2004, 05:32:56 UTC

*shrugs*

waiting is stupid... no point really..
if you 'love' someone then you will express that love physically..

or for the others like us..

just give it a go coz we r fucken horny :P~

_reticence July 20 2004, 13:58:02 UTC

There is a point to waiting. I've watched all of my friends fuck this guy and that guy, never having a relationship that lasted longer than two weeks after they had sex. You fuck a guy just because and then what does he have left to work for? He already got everything you have to give and then he's gone. Don't tell me that that isn't true, because it is. I've seen it happen dozens of times. That's not to say that this is ALWAYS the case, though, because I had sex with my fiance two weeks after I met him and after a year, we're still together and getting married. I was just extremely lucky that he wasn't like most guys.

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jean_e July 12 2004, 04:59:27 UTC

How important is sex in a relationship?

VERY important, Its something enjoyable, sharing something special and it means something to both people (most of the time). Its a major connection and plays a big part in the relationship. altho its not as important as having a good connection with the person, but it does play a major role.

If the sex is bad, is it possible to sustain a relationship and still be happy together?

With my experiences ive allways had sex with the person before dating them. i only go for people like that, im not going to wait around date a girl and find out her snatch cant catch. (<-- how good is that?). sex is something enjoyable, if you dread getting it on with the person your with then whats the point of being togther. if you happen to last... you have to go to bed with this person for the rest of your life. Its personal opinion. i wouldnt go out with a girl who was shity at sex, thats just me cuz sex plays a big part of my life im a very sexual person.

btw mara... what brought this on?

inslntmarz July 12 2004, 16:59:30 UTC

Nothing brought it on, i just remembered the conversation when i was daydreaming in the car the other day and was curious at what others thought because i know i've changed my mind since the conversation took place.

Thanks for your thoughts

_reticence July 20 2004, 14:00:17 UTC

Sex is an extremely important part of a COMMITTED relationship. If you're just dating, you're not making plans for the future, then sex is really just for fun, not for the good of the relationship.

I don't believe that "bad sex" with someone you love is possible. In fact, I don't believe that there is anyone that is naturally BAD at sex. I think there is inexperience and bad communication. There is no sex that can't be made better.

inslntmarz July 20 2004, 16:19:13 UTC

Thankyou for your thoughts.