Sharp Breath

[ink_ling]

The essays are finished. I sent the last one -- Gustaf Sobin -- off this morning. As said in the earlier post, I plan to try and make this winter rife with immediate, short-term pleasure. Sign up for no huge projects, especially the long-term ones. Just do what I want when it comes to mind. Write and read for myself

Comments

[davomatic]

Are they too far to make a day trip prior to xmas just to see the family you want to see? Maybe even set up a dinner with your better half and the family members that have no qualms with him/you as a couple. Nothing teaches those who willing leave other people out like themselves being left out.

And how delicious would it be knowing that people are talking about what a wonderful guy Joe is at their own family xmas?

[sunsmogseahorse]

Right on Davomatic. Maybe with the grandparents. Grandparents are often cool about such things. They lived through the Depression and World War II. That generation tends to be less easily freaked out by little shit like your having a man as a partner. Don't know whether that's the case with them, but it's a good thought.

What if you went to Joe's family? Don't know the sitch there either but that'd be so damned appropriate.

[ink_ling]

Yeah, his parents are definitely cool with it, and I've always enjoyed going there because it is so freeing to not have all that over my head. They're far less hung up on Xmas than my family, though, and their family is so far-flung, that, like last year, they just may do Xmas on Thanksgiving.

My inclination right now -- since I am so little into the holiday -- is to stock up on movies and food and stay on the couch at home all day! :)

[sunsmogseahorse]

See, here's another reason I can't stand religion. Everyone loses their shit for six weeks while I recoil in horror.

[ink_ling]

I'm there exactly. My religion is reading. Family: Let me do it in peace ... .

[sunsmogseahorse]

When I read about your family situation it made me turn red with rage. Your brother and sister-in-law don't want their children exposed to your horrible "lifestyle." How fucking dare they?

I'm sorry to speak ill of your family but are you sure you even want to be in the same room as these people? I could not.

[ink_ling]

Yeah, I go round with this in patterns. Mostly, I feel pulseless and numb about it. There are certain ties to my past I'd like to keep -- mostly growing up on a farm -- that I imagine would be hard to maintain without a family connection of sore sort. Then, there are those who I feel aer basically blameless in the whole situation: my nephews and nieces, my grandparents. I imagine I should keep up appearances for them a lot.

The rest just make me feel like I am the only one making any effort, taking any responsibility, for the relationship we might have, so I just get exhausted and quit trying often.

Still something nags at me ... .

[sunsmogseahorse]

Let's engage in some hot, loving sodomy that would make homophobic fundamentalists weep with envy. You and me, bud.

[ink_ling]

First, did I write "connection of sore sort"? Eh?!

Second, as long as the envious fundamentalists aren't my family. I'd just prefer -- I'm sure you can understand -- they not be in the sideline bleachers at all.

[sunsmogseahorse]

Yes, you did, but I read through your typo. You are absolved.

Even fundie males are jealous over the ease with which the homo of the species can get laid.

So back to sodomy. Heh. You're pretty and bald!

[ink_ling]

Absolved? Yaay! It's priest-parishioner role play! One of my favorites!

Awww shucks, Fella ... .

[ink_ling]

Hey Dave! Well ... they are a four-hour drive, one way. Do-able but a kind of grueling day.

Unfortunately, no one is really ok with my queerness, except for my youngest brother, and he lives in another town and will be driving in for the holiday himself, staying at my folks' house. My grandparents are fundamentalist, too, and my brother and his wife are a WEE more open-minded, but they don't want any allusion to or visibility of queerness to protect their four children, whom they are sending to private Christian school.

Thorny, no? :)

I love the idea, though! Wish I could make it work!

Thanks for sharin' the noggin-grease, D!