What do you do when your parents aren't the same?

[ilikepie605]

For those that don't know, my parents are separated and I live with my dad. It's just me and him in this house for the past 5 years now. We are going through a rough patch in our father/son relationship right now I presume. Personally, I'm going through this phase where I really really want to be out on my own making my own living. I mean, this

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[barbieluvsken04]

My relationship with my dad is fine now that I don't live at home. There was a while this summer when I didn't even talk to him.. but I knew I was going to move out and that I would need his help. There's some things I don't like about our relationship, but I know that it is what it is and have more or less accepted it even if I don't always like it.

I think things with your dad will blow over. I assume something bad happened on the trip :\ and he just needs time to deal with it. Some people deal with things worse than others. I think you should just do what you're doing now and give him space and not mention anything about the trip. I don't know how close you guys are and I know men don't usually ~open up~ about how they feel.. I think he just needs time.

[ilikepie605]

I hope they'll blow over. I used to have this same issue with my mother when my sister and I lived alone with her. My solution then was to move out. I did, which is why I'm here now. Now my Mom and I have an awesome relationship, and it's probably because we don't live together. If my solution once again is to move out, I have nowhere to go. :\

I hope this is just a parental thing, and that there is no correlation with my ability to live with other people. I'll definitely give my dad the space he needs, maybe things we'll clear up. If not, we'll certainly be buddies again in 2 years when i leave his house.

[christianbeauty]

how is your relationship with your folks at this stage of life

[ilikepie605]

It seems that once people get to be our age, they try to distance themselves from parental oversight. They want to be their own person. That's why there's a stigma attached to "living with the folks" i guess. I want to feel grown up and independent, but I know it's not possible right now. Hopefully it will be in the 698 days when I become a husband to christianbeauty. :) <3

It's funny that you mention my mom, if i was to tell her about this, she would definitely have a word with him. lol. Maybe I should! We'll see next week if he's any better. For now, I'm passing on the 5.5 mile walk with him tomorrow morning.