What do you do when your parents aren't the same?
For those that don't know, my parents are separated and I live with my dad. It's just me and him in this house for the past 5 years now. We are going through a rough patch in our father/son relationship right now I presume. Personally, I'm going through this phase where I really really want to be out on my own making my own living. I mean, this phase is so powerful right now that sometimes I resent my father for supporting me. Is that weird? Yes i think so; but I dislike having to rely solely on another person at this point in my life I really want to be out in my own place with Diana. However if the opportunity ever presents itself for me to move out before my wedding day, if I'm financially capable I will do it. Anyway, that's my story.
Add to that my Dad's constantly changing mood. He's always happy and things are always good generally but somedays he's not. Some days he's quiet and doesn't want to be bothered, and he's really short tempered on those days. Yelling at me for things he usually doesn't care about. I've learned to tolerate those days because they truly are occasional and infrequent. You can imagine the tension between us when he is in a bad mood and I am strongly resenting him for aforementioned reasons, it's not great.
Anyway, that's the cocktail of my family right now. Peachy one day and unsettling the next. But hang on to your seats, things are about to become twisted. This past weekend my dad went on a weekend vacation with his girlfriend. Ever since he returned on Tuesday, he's been in the "bad mood" EVERY day! Today's Friday so it's been 4 days now. That hardly ever happens. He refuses to tell me about his trip, every question is met with a one-word answer. He jumps on me about every little thing, gets mad when I'm watching TV because he wants to use it (like it's his birthright to use it) and when I convince him to let me finish something, he gets mad because the volume is loud. The list goes on...
This combination of mine and my father's attitudes is very uncomfortable to come home to. In fact, today I was in a good mood and I cringed when I heard the garage door open. I'm trying to convince myself that the problem lies with me, that it's me wanting to get out that's making me perceive him this way.
So my question is this... how is your relationship with your folks at this stage of life? and how would you fix a situation like mine, if it's ever happened to you?
Add to that my Dad's constantly changing mood. He's always happy and things are always good generally but somedays he's not. Some days he's quiet and doesn't want to be bothered, and he's really short tempered on those days. Yelling at me for things he usually doesn't care about. I've learned to tolerate those days because they truly are occasional and infrequent. You can imagine the tension between us when he is in a bad mood and I am strongly resenting him for aforementioned reasons, it's not great.
Anyway, that's the cocktail of my family right now. Peachy one day and unsettling the next. But hang on to your seats, things are about to become twisted. This past weekend my dad went on a weekend vacation with his girlfriend. Ever since he returned on Tuesday, he's been in the "bad mood" EVERY day! Today's Friday so it's been 4 days now. That hardly ever happens. He refuses to tell me about his trip, every question is met with a one-word answer. He jumps on me about every little thing, gets mad when I'm watching TV because he wants to use it (like it's his birthright to use it) and when I convince him to let me finish something, he gets mad because the volume is loud. The list goes on...
This combination of mine and my father's attitudes is very uncomfortable to come home to. In fact, today I was in a good mood and I cringed when I heard the garage door open. I'm trying to convince myself that the problem lies with me, that it's me wanting to get out that's making me perceive him this way.
So my question is this... how is your relationship with your folks at this stage of life? and how would you fix a situation like mine, if it's ever happened to you?