What do you do when your parents aren't the same?

[ilikepie605]

For those that don't know, my parents are separated and I live with my dad. It's just me and him in this house for the past 5 years now. We are going through a rough patch in our father/son relationship right now I presume. Personally, I'm going through this phase where I really really want to be out on my own making my own living. I mean, this

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[christianbeauty]

how is your relationship with your folks at this stage of life?

My relationship with my parents is going very well at the moment. I think that has to do with the fact that I'm not around them 24/7. All three of us work every day, and we're never off at the same time. We only see each other at night. This arrangement works very well for the us, especially for my mom and me. I tend to not get along well with my mom as well as I do with my dad. (Maybe it's the mother-daughter complex, but we just get on each other's nerves a lot more than we should when we're around each other.) Also, now that I have what's considered a "real" job, my mom doesn't nag me as much as she used to. I guess she now sees that I'm actually "growing up" and making my own money that she doesn't feel the need to treat me like a child. (Well, every now and then she would, but it's much better than before, IMO.) Plus, she approves of my awesome fiance. ;) *MWAHS*

how would you fix a situation like mine, if it's ever happened to you?

Well, I guess I'm somewhat in the same situation as you, except that my parents are still married and living together under one roof. I love them dearly, but there are times when I wish I could move out on my own. It's not out of disrespect or taking them for granted; it's more about growing up and wanting to live life as an adult, instead of as a child when you're sharing the same house as your parents. However, there are benefits from living with your parents, such as you don't have to worry about paying expenses as much as you would if you were living by yourself. Pros and cons exist on both sides.

As far as how to fix the situation with your dad is concerned, I think you should just give him space and let him deal with it his own way. Guys just aren't good at opening up about their feelings, unlike girls. He's probably just peeved about something that had happened during the trip, so it's best that you don't bother asking him any more questions about it. Give him until next week. If his mood still doesn't improve, sic your mom to him. *lol*

With all that said, I can't wait until I get to move in together with you when we're married!!! :D

I ♥ you! *mwahs*

[ilikepie605]

It seems that once people get to be our age, they try to distance themselves from parental oversight. They want to be their own person. That's why there's a stigma attached to "living with the folks" i guess. I want to feel grown up and independent, but I know it's not possible right now. Hopefully it will be in the 698 days when I become a husband to christianbeauty. :) <3

It's funny that you mention my mom, if i was to tell her about this, she would definitely have a word with him. lol. Maybe I should! We'll see next week if he's any better. For now, I'm passing on the 5.5 mile walk with him tomorrow morning.