Christmas is about giving and feeling good. . .i cant give or recieve much down here, especially if i am not happy. If i was still or did get up north then there would be much giving and happiness
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"this one person is all trying to get me to talk through a median, but the median is pascifistic and so who knows the story he got told...if ever he did."
Not sure if this is about me or not, but I've really been wanting to get down to brass tacks on this issue here. You mentioned in Heather's journal that you hated me which I consider odd since we have never met nor spoken. I thought that perhaps you were referring to Heather's more controlling previous boyfriend also named Jeff. You made mention that that was not the case. I asked Heather to find out from you exactly why you disliked me and she has flat out refused, saying that she doesnt like conflict. What she doesnt seem to understand is that I seek resolution, not strife.
Since you are someone that my girlfriend, whom I have lived with for over a year and a half, (Heather) enjoys talking to and has even mentioned the possibility of having over, I find it highly distressing that you would judge me so harshly without taking to opertunity to learn anything about me.
For the sake of all of our temporary grips on sanity, could we just drop the facade and come to resolution?
You never answered my question. My question was WHY.
As for my description of Heather's ex b/f, perhaps I chose poor wording. I certainly don't feel that I control her in any way. Did I tell her I wanted her to be a housewife and kid factory for a living? Did I plant live ammunition in her belongings before she went to college and then call up the college officials saying she was a threat to the community in an effort to keep her uneducated? Nope, other Jeff.
The single rule I enforce in our relationship is a strict honesty policy. I encouraged her to try to go back to college, I supported her while she was jobless fo over a month, I drive her to see her daughter on my one day off from work, I let her use my computer and even pay for her World of Warcraft addiction. Hell, I've even told her that if she ever wanted to sleep with another guy that I'd be ok with it as long as I could meet the guy and she told me about it when it happened (honestly policy). In other words, I prefer to have a caring and open relationship as opposed to one with restrictions and controls.
Why am I bothering to tell you all this? Because you are Heather's friend and no matter how foolish of me it is, I care what you think.
what i think should be of no concern in this capitalist regime, we are all just a single entity alike any other. damn consumerism-ness. Just know and let it be so that my reasons are just and "righteous" in my belief and perception. Perhaps if we were to meet in person i'd tell you straight up, but on the computer words are just words.
Riiiiiight. Look, I tried to be a nice guy here and give you the benefit of the doubt. Refusing to take me seriously and responding with mindless high school emo drivel is your prerogative. I have been calm, courteous, and in my opinion overly polite with you here. Your useless enigmaticism is wearing thin however. If you can't confront me with a single actual reason for your dislike of me, then keep it to yourself and not bluster about it in a public forum (Heather's livejournal). Do you think I enjoy having one my girlfriend's good friends dislike me for no apparent reason? Do you think I feel comfortable knowing that she's laughing and talking on the phone to some guy who I've never even met but evidently thinks im a piece of shit anyway? No, I don't feel comfortable with that. If you think that I am doing something wrong then have at it! Get it out in the open! I'm sick and tired of cringing every time I hear her talking to you. For fuck's sake man, from what she's told me about your likes and hobbies we should get along quite well!
Could you PLEASE just cut the bullshit and talk to me?
Not sure if this is about me or not, but I've really been wanting to get down to brass tacks on this issue here. You mentioned in Heather's journal that you hated me which I consider odd since we have never met nor spoken. I thought that perhaps you were referring to Heather's more controlling previous boyfriend also named Jeff. You made mention that that was not the case. I asked Heather to find out from you exactly why you disliked me and she has flat out refused, saying that she doesnt like conflict. What she doesnt seem to understand is that I seek resolution, not strife.
Since you are someone that my girlfriend, whom I have lived with for over a year and a half, (Heather) enjoys talking to and has even mentioned the possibility of having over, I find it highly distressing that you would judge me so harshly without taking to opertunity to learn anything about me.
For the sake of all of our temporary grips on sanity, could we just drop the facade and come to resolution?
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hate...i dont hate, dislike to a degree...but hate=wanting to mookify and slay, truth be it i'm not into that.
"more controlling"? there should be no controlling of any sort.
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As for my description of Heather's ex b/f, perhaps I chose poor wording. I certainly don't feel that I control her in any way. Did I tell her I wanted her to be a housewife and kid factory for a living? Did I plant live ammunition in her belongings before she went to college and then call up the college officials saying she was a threat to the community in an effort to keep her uneducated? Nope, other Jeff.
The single rule I enforce in our relationship is a strict honesty policy. I encouraged her to try to go back to college, I supported her while she was jobless fo over a month, I drive her to see her daughter on my one day off from work, I let her use my computer and even pay for her World of Warcraft addiction. Hell, I've even told her that if she ever wanted to sleep with another guy that I'd be ok with it as long as I could meet the guy and she told me about it when it happened (honestly policy). In other words, I prefer to have a caring and open relationship as opposed to one with restrictions and controls.
Why am I bothering to tell you all this? Because you are Heather's friend and no matter how foolish of me it is, I care what you think.
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Could you PLEASE just cut the bullshit and talk to me?
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