Bullshit!
The whole point of family is to be there for them regardless of the situation, whether is is financially-emotionally-etc. Just because you support your kids doesn't mean they owe you the rest of their lives. You have to give respect to earn respect. Once your kids are a certain age, doesn't mean you are supposed to be all up in there business anymore. A nosy parent is not a good parent. Just stay out of your child's personal business. If they don't want to tell you something, obviously they have a good reason not to. The reason either has to do with privacy or it's none of the parent's business. End of discussion, there is no need to bring it up anymore. A good parent is supposed to feed their kids when necessary. I know we are in a recession, but that doesn't mean you stop going grocery shopping for your children. Kids don't need to share things with their parents all the time. I can understand your parents asking you for something every once in awhile. That is fine. Don't expect me to share something with you every time I get it because that is not going to happen. Society doesn't work that way. What kind of parent asks questions about a child's friends and tries to get up in their business? There isn't a parent in the world that does that, except for my mom. What your child's friends do with their lives is not their business. That's why parents have their own friends, so they can talk to them about stuff. If you keep pushing your luck and trying to pry your way into your child's life, then they are going to lose their minds. Know your place as a parent and then just shut the hell up the rest of the time! If you stop talking so much, then people will learn to respect you better. Parents have done their job raising their kids after a certain point. Once that point is reached, then parents need to step aside and let their kids be adults. As long as you trust your kids and realized that you raised them right, everything else will be fine. Mistakes are going to be made in life. Things happen that can't be avoided, so parents need to get over it and move on. You can't get mad at your child if you ask their opinion about something and they say they don't like it. You can't get mad at your child if you ask them to go somewhere and they say they don't go with you. You can't get mad at your child if they don't share certain things with you. I'm over sharing shit with parents. That time has come and gone in life. If you want something bad enough, then go get it yourself. I don't owe you anything anymore. The funny part about this shit is my mom thinks I'm going to take care of her when she gets older. After the way she's treated me, that will never happen. I want nothing to do with her. Once I move out, it's over. I'm not talking to her. She will not see me at all. Her chance to try and change is over. She never took the opportunity to change and own up to her mistakes. For that, there is no point in trying to be around her. She wants to try and make up for all those years of broken promises by being buddies with me now, but it's too late for that. We were never friends. She failed big time at the whole parenting situation. I'm older now and I'm just over all the bullshit. She thinks I like her and I don't. She thinks I listen to her and I don't. She thinks she's a good person and she's not. She thinks she is a good parent and she's not. She has totally fucked up in that area! She has already lost me as her daughter. I want nothing to do with her. If she would have been a better parent from the beginning, then maybe things would have been different. I can't trust her. You're supposed to be able to trust your mother and I don't trust mine. She wasn't their for me when I need her support emotionally. It seemed like I had to beg her to be their for me financially at certain points in my life. I don't beg people for shit. You're supposed to know your role as a parent and step up to the plate. If she would have given me a reason to trust her, then there wouldn't be any problems now. You don't steal stuff from your children. You ask them to borrow it or you ask them if they want to keep certain things. If the child says no, then you leave it alone. You don't take stuff after the fact that your child told you not too. You don't read a child's mail if it's not addressed to you. You let the child read their own mail. Just learn to mind your business and stay out of situations that have nothing to do with you. You raised your child to do the right things. After that, there should be nothing else you need to say to your child. If you learn to mind your business, then people have more respect for you. If you don't know how to mind your business and shut the fuck up, then people have no respect for you. Nobody respects a liar. Just be truthful about certain things. Don't lie or break promises just to cover your own ass. When you do that, that means that all you care about is yourself. Just be truthful and say that or say why you didn't keep your promise. Being able to admit that you were wrong shows that you're maturing as a person. It means that you care about the person that you want to become as you get older in life. If you can't do that, then nobody will respect you. I don't respect people who don't know how to learn from their mistakes. If you can't do that, then you're obviously a coward. I can't be around someone who doesn't know how to act like a human being and do right by their children. I will not be a part of that lifestyle. It's not healthy and it's not right. I will never do that to my children ever. This is the kind of shit that can scar you for life and make you not want to have children. Also, it can be a reason why you don't do well in relationships. It can scare you into thinking that you won't do right by the important people in your life. I'll be damned if I'm going to let that happen to me. My mother is not going to ruin me, especially with her bitch-like attitude. What kind of mother starts fight with their children for no reason at all? The kind that has no soul or conscience. That shit is no right at all. The way you treat people is going to come back and bite you in the ass. So, only dish out what you can take. If you don't want somebody treating you bad, then don't talk to them like they don't mean shit. Otherwise, that is exactly how your children will treat you. If you come at me like a bitch, then I will treat you like a bitch. I treat people the way they want to be treated. I don't talk to people who treat me like shit. Don't fuck with me unless you can be prepared to handle it. If you come at me the wrong way, then I will beat your ass. I will no longer let an ungrateful bitch hold me back. My so-called mother will never be able to stop me. I will be damned if she thinks she has some kind of hold on me cuz that shit is not true. She has met her match. She is no longer a part of my life anymore. It's over and done with, peace!