Love!
So I was looking for a quote that I read about on a blog and ended up on a website advertising "romantic readings for weddings". Most were really not great, but I did find one by Madeline L'Engle, and I love her! I'm going to a wedding this weekend, and all my friends are getting married, and everyone I've ever met is asking me when I'm getting married, and I'm just sitting back and letting that stage of my life arrive whenever it wants to. I would get married if the time comes, but I'm in a love that is infinite and fulfilling and beautiful without needing marriage to be so, which means that while I can see it being nice, I'm not in a hurry. But L'Engle is good at saying what I feel about marriage and about the general category of forever-love, which is where I am now:
From "The Irrational Season", by Madeleine L'Engle
"Ultimately there comes a time when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created. To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling."
I only saw one other quote that I really loved, and I'm going to get sappy with you, dear readers, and tell you that this is how I feel about metamorphage:
“I Love You”, by Roy Croft
“I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you, for the part of me that you bring out. I love you, for putting your hand into my heaped-up heart, and passing over all the foolish, weak things that you can’t help dimly seeing there, and for drawing out, into the light, all the beautiful belongings that no one else had looked quite far enough to find. I love you, because you are helping me to make of the lumber of my life, not a tavern, but a temple. Out of the works of my every day, not a reproach, but a song. I love you, because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy. You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign. You have done it by being yourself. Perhaps that is what being a friend means, after all.”
PS-I'm still working on the next day of the 30 day meme! They're asking a lot from this next question, so I need to come up with a lot of things. :-P
From "The Irrational Season", by Madeleine L'Engle
"Ultimately there comes a time when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created. To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling."
I only saw one other quote that I really loved, and I'm going to get sappy with you, dear readers, and tell you that this is how I feel about metamorphage:
“I Love You”, by Roy Croft
“I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you, for the part of me that you bring out. I love you, for putting your hand into my heaped-up heart, and passing over all the foolish, weak things that you can’t help dimly seeing there, and for drawing out, into the light, all the beautiful belongings that no one else had looked quite far enough to find. I love you, because you are helping me to make of the lumber of my life, not a tavern, but a temple. Out of the works of my every day, not a reproach, but a song. I love you, because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy. You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign. You have done it by being yourself. Perhaps that is what being a friend means, after all.”
PS-I'm still working on the next day of the 30 day meme! They're asking a lot from this next question, so I need to come up with a lot of things. :-P