Engagement and Wedding stuffs

[fligh]

So I might as well use my live journal for some planning stuff. Ideas etc. I will also use this as a place to put my true feelings because I need somewhere to vent that Russ won't read. No I'm not going to keep secrets from him, but I just have to have a place to put all my mixed up feelings

Comments

[trisbiss]

There is nothing wrong, especially in this day and age, with doing two ceremonies! Some people do it because they have different ideas, or different cultures, or unique situations. You guys will find a way to squeeze in all you want for your wedding one way or another. If you'll know on Friday a little more about how she is going to do, then you'll have some basis to pick a date - whether it's next week, next month, or next year. Then you have something to go by! Once you get a date it'll be a little less up in the air. Have you considered a nice hotel as a location?

You're not a bad person at all for wanting both things. Not at all. You're human, and it's a once in a lifetime experience, and it's your time to plan a day the way you want it to be so you are in the environment you create when you declare your love and forever devotion for each other. If you care mostly about having close friends, family, whatever there, then plan it around that based on the date that will allow that to happen. If you need or want to have something additional later on, that's ok!

I know it's really frustrating trying to plan something when everything requires a set date, when you can't set that date yet. I tried that, and finally threw my hands up when someone suggested 2 ceremonies. I'm unsure now, but it's my own insecurities that are causing the issues now! You do what you need to do and the people who love you, that you would surround yourself with at your wedding, will support you no matter how you do things. It'll be ok. xx

[notallthere927]

this.

Also, since you guys already live together and have a lot of the basics, maybe ask guests and friends and family that are not attending but wish to gift to make a charitable contribution to a cancer organization?