Engagement and Wedding stuffs

[fligh]

So I might as well use my live journal for some planning stuff. Ideas etc. I will also use this as a place to put my true feelings because I need somewhere to vent that Russ won't read. No I'm not going to keep secrets from him, but I just have to have a place to put all my mixed up feelings

Comments

[lauraisabel]

no you are not horrible at all. A wedding is something women have been dreaming on since they were little girls!! I'm sorry you are having to plan yours around such sad circumstances. You can look it from a kinda of brighter point of view: you could be a winter and a summer/fall bride! (I know, lame attempt, but it is true). Make a special small ceremony with the single most important people in both your lives, then do the wedding you dreamed for either as a renewal of the vows or just do the civil ceremony now, and if you plan to do the religious one do it later. I don't know, just do something that will make you feel good in both ways, do the ceremony you want as a gift for Russ' mom, something that's very very special for all of you, and then during happier times, plan the wedding of your dreams!

Don't feel horrible about wanting it all! remember, it is a dream all of us have had forever! I'm sure Russ' mom would want you to have that. xoxox

[trisbiss]

There is nothing wrong, especially in this day and age, with doing two ceremonies! Some people do it because they have different ideas, or different cultures, or unique situations. You guys will find a way to squeeze in all you want for your wedding one way or another. If you'll know on Friday a little more about how she is going to do, then you'll have some basis to pick a date - whether it's next week, next month, or next year. Then you have something to go by! Once you get a date it'll be a little less up in the air. Have you considered a nice hotel as a location

[notallthere927]

this.

Also, since you guys already live together and have a lot of the basics, maybe ask guests and friends and family that are not attending but wish to gift to make a charitable contribution to a cancer organization?

[risababy]

I have to agree with the people above me. You're not horrible for thinking these things and wanting it both ways. It's such an amazing time in a womens life... and their families too.

My friend, Danielle (you know her) got married in a small thing and then did another 'wedding'/reception for everyone.

You do what you need to. Do what makes you happy and that makes you feel good.

love you