what a tangled web we all weave.......

[sprinkleme77]

what is your advice on asking a married man to leave his wife for you? i mean, i cant bring myself to do it. but... he has already said he would.. but i told him no and to not think about that again. so he seems almost scared to say anything that could make me feel like he would. i honestly believe that he would do it if i gave him the impression i

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[bigtomd]

How long have you known each other?

[sprinkleme77]

7 years. only started the affair about a month ago.

[bigtomd]

If he's having a lot of problems with his present marriage, why is that? Was he not ready to get married? Is he ready for you?

[sprinkleme77]

i asked him why he got married and he stated "i dont know

[bigtomd]

Sounds like his version of "love" is similar to mine. It's not love, it's a business relationship. What will happen when the children are gone?

[sprinkleme77]

hahaha. wow. its so funny that you say all this. i asked him that as well... and he just kinda said, "i dont know", to that also. i think in a way he doesnt want to make me feel like he expects me to wait for that to happen, because in an unselfish way, he expects that someone will come and sweep me off my feet eventually and this thing will be over. but the other day he said that he see's this ending with us in love with each other. and then what? he mentioned something to me like, if i dont end things now [with his wife]. and say, you decide you cant handle it, and leave. then later on i get a divorce for something stupid and then youre already in love and gone. what then? - so i think in a way, he's considered getting a divorce in the long run of things. i dont know. but it wasnt too long ago he told me he'd leave her for me, but i told him no. - i fight everyday to not reconsider that feeling though. i forgot to mention he's been married before. that didnt work out in terms of the wife though, and they were young. this time.. i

[bigtomd]

Has he met enough women in his life? Have you met enough men? Are either of you ready to settle down? I'm not.

[sprinkleme77]

he's 40. he's met and known many woman, yes.
i think he's ready to settle down with me.. cuz he's willing to "give it all up" to do so.
im younger, 25. but im way ahead of my time. i was emancipated when i was 14 and have been independent since. i feel like im at least 35. i think my sense of life and belief is what drew him in. that, and im pretty damn sexy. ;) hahaha. i joke around and tell my friends that he wants to leave his wife for me cuz im the first woman to ever make him cum from oral. hahaha. maybe that was tmi. sorry. -_-

[bigtomd]

I'm in my 40's and would love to hop in with someone in their 20's or 30's. I don't see any issue with your difference in ages. Others would, but that's not your problem, it's theirs. I know that I didn't have enough relationships when I was younger, and I'm striving to make up for that.

[stuckwoyou]

Sprinkleme77