biggest fan.
i'm dating someone who has a kid. now this wouldn't be that major if the kid's mom wasn't psycho.
i talked to my mom about it (of course...amazing how the older i get, the stronger my relationship/friendship with my mom becomes). she said "you can't stop yourself from liking someone because they have baggage. that's like saying you don't want to walk out of your front door because you're afraid of getting robbed. fear should never stop you from living your life." she's right. i'm not about to give up what i just started because i'm kind of afraid. we've got a great connection and i feel so happy when i'm in his arms. it's a shitty situation, but hopefully he'll see how strong i am. i'm not afraid to at least give this a shot, so that's what i'm going to do. i hope he's strong enough to do the same.
there's only one thing that i think may become an issue. when she gets psycho, he turns his phone off. i can understand why, in fact, i would probably do the same....but it sucks to be me. it sucks to be on my side. i called, just to say hi because i want to & because i can, and his phone is off. as a girl, i can see myself getting offended. it's as if he's running away from me too. even though i know that's not true, that's how i feel. i want him to be comfortable enough to talk to me about everything. i want to be there for him. i want to be able to call when I want to talk. but none of these things can happen if he turns his phone off every time she gets crazy.
maybe it's stupid of me to be getting involved. but in actuality, i'm not involved. i'm only in his life, not hers. i listen when he needs, but i will never do anything or say anything to her. i know he's frustrated. i'm sure he's drinking right now. and i really hope he takes my advice from earlier & doesn't get wasted, because i really want to see him tomorrow.. & i don't want him to use a hangover as an excuse.
am i stupid? probably. but this is what happens when you fall for someone.
"if you have enough guts to have unprotected sex with someone, then you should be prepared for what follows. she'll always be a part of his life, but he needs to stop living his life trying to avoid her and start living for himself." - my mom
i talked to my mom about it (of course...amazing how the older i get, the stronger my relationship/friendship with my mom becomes). she said "you can't stop yourself from liking someone because they have baggage. that's like saying you don't want to walk out of your front door because you're afraid of getting robbed. fear should never stop you from living your life." she's right. i'm not about to give up what i just started because i'm kind of afraid. we've got a great connection and i feel so happy when i'm in his arms. it's a shitty situation, but hopefully he'll see how strong i am. i'm not afraid to at least give this a shot, so that's what i'm going to do. i hope he's strong enough to do the same.
there's only one thing that i think may become an issue. when she gets psycho, he turns his phone off. i can understand why, in fact, i would probably do the same....but it sucks to be me. it sucks to be on my side. i called, just to say hi because i want to & because i can, and his phone is off. as a girl, i can see myself getting offended. it's as if he's running away from me too. even though i know that's not true, that's how i feel. i want him to be comfortable enough to talk to me about everything. i want to be there for him. i want to be able to call when I want to talk. but none of these things can happen if he turns his phone off every time she gets crazy.
maybe it's stupid of me to be getting involved. but in actuality, i'm not involved. i'm only in his life, not hers. i listen when he needs, but i will never do anything or say anything to her. i know he's frustrated. i'm sure he's drinking right now. and i really hope he takes my advice from earlier & doesn't get wasted, because i really want to see him tomorrow.. & i don't want him to use a hangover as an excuse.
am i stupid? probably. but this is what happens when you fall for someone.
"if you have enough guts to have unprotected sex with someone, then you should be prepared for what follows. she'll always be a part of his life, but he needs to stop living his life trying to avoid her and start living for himself." - my mom