Ignorance is bliss
It's kinda ironic that I wrote about that part of Bring The Pain then when I get to school today have an incident that's a lot like it. We had a test in PHSB (psych. of human sex'l behavior) last week and today we went over the answers. She said a lot of the wrong answers given were the stereotypical answers. I can't be too mad at that because most people skip most classes and just show up on test day (dumb ass idea), so all you can expect of them is typical and stereotypical crap. But some of those questions were giveaways. One question that a lot of people got wrong just made me sad, seriously. The question was where is the urethra? There were 4 choices. 2 of which were penis and vagina. *sigh* A lot of people said vagina. How sad is that? WOMEN too! Most of the class is women. How can all of these women go around thinking they urinate from their vaginas??? That's incredibly sad. The prof was laughing I guess to kind of brush it off and make them feel better, but I found it very, very sad. We should know our bodies better.
My prof was talking about one of her patients. I forget how it came up, but she was talking about how--- ooooh, ok now I remember how it came up. The question on the test was is it wrong for a parent to undress in front of their child? Now she clearly said "this was not explained explicitly. I expect you to draw from what you've learned." Which I interpreted to mean she wanted us to be openminded --- which is what she meant. The choices were something like (1)never (2)only if the child is over 13 (3)you have to take into account the child's age, social awareness and sensitivity and blah, something else. Obviously it's the third choice. I mean, obviously. I honestly think people purposely chose the first answer as like a defiant stance for what they believe is right, which only hurt them because they lost the points. Ha ha!
Anyhoo, so that led to a discussion about why adults should be open with their children about their bodies, teach them not to be ashamed and yadda^3. Then my prof talks about her patient. She says he was molested at 5 and went to tell his mother. He says to her "Mommy, I have something to tell you, but it's nasty and dirty." She says, "if it's nasty and dirty, I don't wanna hear it." So he kept it to himself until he was in his 30's. Some asshole in the class says "why did he tell? his parents couldn't do anything at that point anyway." I kept quiet because I really wanted to go to the back of the class and slap that idiot. She tried to explain to him that humans have a natural inclination to confess. That we all at some level feel a need to tell things. That it was probably eating away at him all of these years and he finally got the nerve to tell someone. And this dickhead STILL questions why, why, why. SHIT! Just accept that there's some things you may not understand. It's not for you TO understand. You have no idea what that man went through! Shut the fuck up about shit you don't know about. Just be glad that you can't relate and accept that fact!
I swear I started this entry calm as can be, now I'm pissed off.
My prof was talking about one of her patients. I forget how it came up, but she was talking about how--- ooooh, ok now I remember how it came up. The question on the test was is it wrong for a parent to undress in front of their child? Now she clearly said "this was not explained explicitly. I expect you to draw from what you've learned." Which I interpreted to mean she wanted us to be openminded --- which is what she meant. The choices were something like (1)never (2)only if the child is over 13 (3)you have to take into account the child's age, social awareness and sensitivity and blah, something else. Obviously it's the third choice. I mean, obviously. I honestly think people purposely chose the first answer as like a defiant stance for what they believe is right, which only hurt them because they lost the points. Ha ha!
Anyhoo, so that led to a discussion about why adults should be open with their children about their bodies, teach them not to be ashamed and yadda^3. Then my prof talks about her patient. She says he was molested at 5 and went to tell his mother. He says to her "Mommy, I have something to tell you, but it's nasty and dirty." She says, "if it's nasty and dirty, I don't wanna hear it." So he kept it to himself until he was in his 30's. Some asshole in the class says "why did he tell? his parents couldn't do anything at that point anyway." I kept quiet because I really wanted to go to the back of the class and slap that idiot. She tried to explain to him that humans have a natural inclination to confess. That we all at some level feel a need to tell things. That it was probably eating away at him all of these years and he finally got the nerve to tell someone. And this dickhead STILL questions why, why, why. SHIT! Just accept that there's some things you may not understand. It's not for you TO understand. You have no idea what that man went through! Shut the fuck up about shit you don't know about. Just be glad that you can't relate and accept that fact!
I swear I started this entry calm as can be, now I'm pissed off.