I am no longer an only child
Today I found out that I have a half-sister living in Chile named Javiera. She's 18.
The weird thing is, she friended me on Facebook a few months ago. I honestly just assumed she was another cousin, since I seem to have so many from my father's side.
Tonight at dinner, I was talking with friends and Denver about there being the possibility of me having a sibling. Denver had the best idea; instead of wondering, why don't I just ask my aunt Nelly? She's one of my father's sisters. So I did. And Tia Nelly confirmed I have a sister.
My mind is blown. I have gone 29 years thinking I was an only child. And technically, I still am, because I did not grow up with a sibling. But seriously, I have a sister? And for 18 years, I never knew about her?
A lot of questions rage through my mind. Why didn't anyone tell me? Why didn't my father? Why didn't my aunt? Did Tia Nelly assume I knew? Does Javi know I am her sister, or did she make the same assumption as I did that I was just another cousin? If she knew I was her sister, why didn't she say something? Did she think I knew? Has she been waiting for me to say something to her after all this time we've been friends on Facebook?
And the biggest question that weighs heavy on my heart: Is my father a part of her life?
I looked through a lot of her pictures, and I don't see him in any of them. It's possible he isn't a part of her life. I don't know. But there is one thing that tickles me to my core; he tried to have another child and IT WASN'T A BOY. I HAVE THE LAST LAUGH, HAHAHAHA.
But all kidding aside....I have a little sister. One I will probably never meet face-to-face. I don't think we look alike at all, except for the same bushy eyebrows.
So I sent a message to Javi, just stating: "Today, I found out you are my sister. I never knew." I translated that into Spanish, though you can never tell how well Google Translate does. I will wait to see if I hear from her. I have so many questions for her, though most of them pertain to my father. Denver says I should wait until much later in a conversation to bring up my father. I guess he's right.
Why didn't anyone tell me sooner???
People think I might be upset, but I'm not. A little sad, maybe, for a few different reasons, but not angry.
There are so many people I want to talk to about this right now, bu it's late. I found out hours ago, but I was at boardgames and wanted to take my mind off it until I had some time alone to process things. I'm still processing things, of course.
I want to call my mom right now, but I'll just wake her up, and she won't be able to go back to sleep. It will have to wait until tomorrow.
The weird thing is, she friended me on Facebook a few months ago. I honestly just assumed she was another cousin, since I seem to have so many from my father's side.
Tonight at dinner, I was talking with friends and Denver about there being the possibility of me having a sibling. Denver had the best idea; instead of wondering, why don't I just ask my aunt Nelly? She's one of my father's sisters. So I did. And Tia Nelly confirmed I have a sister.
My mind is blown. I have gone 29 years thinking I was an only child. And technically, I still am, because I did not grow up with a sibling. But seriously, I have a sister? And for 18 years, I never knew about her?
A lot of questions rage through my mind. Why didn't anyone tell me? Why didn't my father? Why didn't my aunt? Did Tia Nelly assume I knew? Does Javi know I am her sister, or did she make the same assumption as I did that I was just another cousin? If she knew I was her sister, why didn't she say something? Did she think I knew? Has she been waiting for me to say something to her after all this time we've been friends on Facebook?
And the biggest question that weighs heavy on my heart: Is my father a part of her life?
I looked through a lot of her pictures, and I don't see him in any of them. It's possible he isn't a part of her life. I don't know. But there is one thing that tickles me to my core; he tried to have another child and IT WASN'T A BOY. I HAVE THE LAST LAUGH, HAHAHAHA.
But all kidding aside....I have a little sister. One I will probably never meet face-to-face. I don't think we look alike at all, except for the same bushy eyebrows.
So I sent a message to Javi, just stating: "Today, I found out you are my sister. I never knew." I translated that into Spanish, though you can never tell how well Google Translate does. I will wait to see if I hear from her. I have so many questions for her, though most of them pertain to my father. Denver says I should wait until much later in a conversation to bring up my father. I guess he's right.
Why didn't anyone tell me sooner???
People think I might be upset, but I'm not. A little sad, maybe, for a few different reasons, but not angry.
There are so many people I want to talk to about this right now, bu it's late. I found out hours ago, but I was at boardgames and wanted to take my mind off it until I had some time alone to process things. I'm still processing things, of course.
I want to call my mom right now, but I'll just wake her up, and she won't be able to go back to sleep. It will have to wait until tomorrow.