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I like the word soul.
And I like the word mate.
Other than that, you got me....
The idea of having a "soulmate" is an old fashioned way to explain the same concepts hidden behind online dating. The idea that there is one person out there for you. One. Single. Person. Its a little bit like dating suicide, to find yourself on the path towards your soulmate, looking for one person who can complete you. This would be the path that takes you towards heartbreak. I mean, there simply cannot be one person for you
What the hell is the concept of a soul mate any way? Someone who is the exact match to your soul? That one person who is an perfect fit to the core of your very own being?
What if that person doesn't exist, and that all you have are negotiations of how much of your own soul you are willing to give up on and how much they are willing to change of theirs. Relationships are a series of "if I, then you" conversations. And you can agree, agree to disagree, or the fat lady sings.
I have come to realize, that with me, I often can't negotiate past love. The word is said, and I begin to think of how I can't negotiate my soul that much. I want love more than I can describe, but for the life of me, I cannot get over the fear of it. The concept of a soulmate is one that I have always inherently believed in, but since I started on the dating market, I have recoiled from it. In my mind, I had already found it, despite that I am not it for him.
Will I continue recoiling from the negotiation table when the cards have been played, just because I have convinced myself I have already found my soulmate?
damn.
sometimes, a night of wine and TV gets to my head.
And I like the word mate.
Other than that, you got me....
The idea of having a "soulmate" is an old fashioned way to explain the same concepts hidden behind online dating. The idea that there is one person out there for you. One. Single. Person. Its a little bit like dating suicide, to find yourself on the path towards your soulmate, looking for one person who can complete you. This would be the path that takes you towards heartbreak. I mean, there simply cannot be one person for you
What the hell is the concept of a soul mate any way? Someone who is the exact match to your soul? That one person who is an perfect fit to the core of your very own being?
What if that person doesn't exist, and that all you have are negotiations of how much of your own soul you are willing to give up on and how much they are willing to change of theirs. Relationships are a series of "if I, then you" conversations. And you can agree, agree to disagree, or the fat lady sings.
I have come to realize, that with me, I often can't negotiate past love. The word is said, and I begin to think of how I can't negotiate my soul that much. I want love more than I can describe, but for the life of me, I cannot get over the fear of it. The concept of a soulmate is one that I have always inherently believed in, but since I started on the dating market, I have recoiled from it. In my mind, I had already found it, despite that I am not it for him.
Will I continue recoiling from the negotiation table when the cards have been played, just because I have convinced myself I have already found my soulmate?
damn.
sometimes, a night of wine and TV gets to my head.