compromising on "me time?"
Last night me and my husband had a serious talk. He said that his biggest grievance is that sometimes he just needs space, and "me time" to do stuff with his buddies without me. I know that this is perfectly healthy, and I don't have a problem with this in itself.
My husband has a crazy schedule. He is in the Army and often works 60+ hours in a week. Therefore, I have more than enough "me time" while he's at work and routinely see my friends. So naturally, the little time that he *is* off, I want to spend with him. I feel upset if I haven't seen him all week, but then he wants to go out with his buddies instead of hanging out with me.
Basically, he needs time away from me that isn't him working, where he can just relax, but then I feel like time is so precious and I don't want to give that up because there's so little of it. Also, his buddies usually spontaneously plan things, so if he does want to go out on like a Saturday night, there's a 99% chance all of my friends will already be busy, and I don't really want to sit at home alone while he goes out.
So I feel like this is an impasse where it is pretty much impossible to compromise. It's not that he doesn't want to spend time with me, he just doesn't want to spend *all* his time with me, every single weekend.
Any advice? :/
My husband has a crazy schedule. He is in the Army and often works 60+ hours in a week. Therefore, I have more than enough "me time" while he's at work and routinely see my friends. So naturally, the little time that he *is* off, I want to spend with him. I feel upset if I haven't seen him all week, but then he wants to go out with his buddies instead of hanging out with me.
Basically, he needs time away from me that isn't him working, where he can just relax, but then I feel like time is so precious and I don't want to give that up because there's so little of it. Also, his buddies usually spontaneously plan things, so if he does want to go out on like a Saturday night, there's a 99% chance all of my friends will already be busy, and I don't really want to sit at home alone while he goes out.
So I feel like this is an impasse where it is pretty much impossible to compromise. It's not that he doesn't want to spend time with me, he just doesn't want to spend *all* his time with me, every single weekend.
Any advice? :/