Ooh, the little things...
An RSVP!!
So we got our very first RSVP today! Part of me is all giddy inside because it was so fun to get the little bugger in the mail. The other part of me says it really isn't that big of a deal. I have only sent out 1 invitation so far. We went ahead and sent one to our friends who will be in Ecuador for the next 2 months and we wanted to make sure they got it before they left. Both of them are IN the wedding so we knew what the RSVP would be, but STILL! It's fun :)
I'm hooo-oome!
I'm also getting really excited and nervous about moving in to our house. Dave has been living there for a while and I'm gradually piling my stuff in. My lease is officially up August 4th so I have to be in by then. I'm excited to have a place again. Moving and renovating has taken a deep toll on my eating and exercise habits and I'm ready to regain some control over my time and groceries again. I know we'll do OK with the transition (not without bumps, though, I'm sure) but the part that has me nervous is his mom.
Apparently he and his siblings are all in agreement that it is a good idea to not tell FMIL that we're moving in together a whole whopping 2 months before the wedding. She is UBER conservative (it about chokes me on a regular basis) and they all think it's better to leave it on the DL. I refuse to lie to her and think it's stupid to try and hide, not to mention, she's not dumb. She'll figure it out. It's obvious to me why they think it's better to not say anything to her about it but it's also hard to manage for me because my family simply does not operate in this way. Things are how they are - take them or leave them. I'm sure my mom wishes we were waiting until October too but she won't say anything, wishes us the best and respects our choices. FMIL has a long way to go before I'll say that she "respects our choices" Dave is her baby and he does no wrong and so therefore this "bad choice" of ours will most definitely be seen as MY "bad choice" when she finds out. (sigh) Anyway, I'm excited despite her possible objections.
How are we going to manage this ride?
Since our officiant lives in New Orleans, we have more or less been on our own to find some kind of marriage prep course (or whatever it should be called) which we both agreed we would like to take advantage of. Add into the mix that neither one of us has strong connections to a church where we live and it's taken a while to find a place/priest to work with us. Luckily I finally found a taker this week but since it has taken so long to get it organized we might end up doing some of the discussions after we're married. I think this actually makes more sense, or as least as much as doing it all beforehand. I don't think he's entirely thrilled with our last-minute efforts at roping him into this but we will warp him into loving us with our never ending wit and charm...right? lol
In the mean time, we have been reading through a couple of books that have been helpful. I was a bit grumpy about the selection of books that are out there for couples. They are all "Fix It" books - as in, we have something broken and we need to fix it, which is not how we want to approach our marriage. A friend turned us on to The Exceptional Seven Percent which we love! The idea of this book is more along the lines of "you have a good relationship - here are ways to make it even better" I have really enjoyed talking through it with Dave and can definitely see the challenge that it presents for us and our relationship.
Plus, this week he got a review copy of a new book called 52 Fights; A Newlywed's Confession. The author wrote little stories about how she and her husband got through the weeks of their first year of marriage. I can feel myself already identifying with her and I can imagine that Dave thinks in much the same way as she describes her husband. So I'm glad we live in a time where there are so many great resources to help us through all this crazy transition and also entertain us at the same time.
And I'm especially happy that our single existing RSVP is the current placeholder in the book. :)