Pre-Courtship Questionnaire - Pt 11 Modesty and Appearance
It's time again for the fundamentalist relationship meme of doom: http://www.stufffundieslike.com/2013/06/the-pre-courtship-questionnaire/!
221. What is your thinking on these issues? Be specific where you draw the line.
My thinking on modesty and appearance is that one should be prudent when it comes to obeying local laws. Also, I think it would be wrong to wear nothing on the tube during rush hour because I really don't want to be squeezed in against anybody's uncovered genitals when I'm trying to get to work.
222. What bothers you in the area of modesty
The ban on female toplessness when male toplessness is allowed is clearly a sexist double standard.
223. What is your definition of biblical modesty
Um, covering oneself with fig leaves?
224. What if our opinions differ?
It would be a bit silly to assume that we would always agree on everything. your body is your body and my body is my body.
225. Do you have Bible to back up your opinion? Is it a conviction or an opinion?
Note to self: find a bible verse that points out that two separate people have two separate bodies.
226. Are pants ever acceptable
My American readers may be amused to learn that in the London region, 'pants' means 'underwear' and so this question seems to wonder if one should ever deviate from going commando.
I see here that 'modesty' means me telling my hypothetical future wife what she is 'allowed' to wear and thus violating her autonomy and being very controlling of her day to day life. Yuck.
Or else I'm being compelled to go all scottish in the male lower half of the body dress, which I don't think I can really pull off. Or maybe I'm supposed to go naked on the tube? I'm still against it.
227. What do you think about name brand clothing and emblems
I don't enjoy being a walking advertisement, but you know, fashion...
228. Will you regulate your children’s clothing
I will make them wear warm clothes in cold weather and less clothes in hot weather. Also, I'm kind of uncool with sexualised clothes for small children. One of my friends mail-orders his daughter's clothes from Denmark and I might copy his lead. I'd like to give my HFCs a lot of agency in what they wear and how they express themselves, though. there is some inherent conflict there and how to resolve it depends on a lot of factors, including the HFC's age.
229. How will you approach your wife or daughters if they are immodest
If my HFS is naked on the rush hour tube and there's not some obvious explanation for it, I would have her sectioned, which would be extremely tragic, so I hope this never happens.
If my daughter has decided to wear a tiny skirt and a tiny shirt out in the snow in January, I will be very annoying and insist that she take a coat with her and accept that my HFS would probably intervene at some point.
Also, my son will need ot take a coat as well, and wear a bloody jumper, especially if he keeps turning up the heat.
221. What is your thinking on these issues? Be specific where you draw the line.
My thinking on modesty and appearance is that one should be prudent when it comes to obeying local laws. Also, I think it would be wrong to wear nothing on the tube during rush hour because I really don't want to be squeezed in against anybody's uncovered genitals when I'm trying to get to work.
222. What bothers you in the area of modesty
The ban on female toplessness when male toplessness is allowed is clearly a sexist double standard.
223. What is your definition of biblical modesty
Um, covering oneself with fig leaves?
224. What if our opinions differ?
It would be a bit silly to assume that we would always agree on everything. your body is your body and my body is my body.
225. Do you have Bible to back up your opinion? Is it a conviction or an opinion?
Note to self: find a bible verse that points out that two separate people have two separate bodies.
226. Are pants ever acceptable
My American readers may be amused to learn that in the London region, 'pants' means 'underwear' and so this question seems to wonder if one should ever deviate from going commando.
I see here that 'modesty' means me telling my hypothetical future wife what she is 'allowed' to wear and thus violating her autonomy and being very controlling of her day to day life. Yuck.
Or else I'm being compelled to go all scottish in the male lower half of the body dress, which I don't think I can really pull off. Or maybe I'm supposed to go naked on the tube? I'm still against it.
227. What do you think about name brand clothing and emblems
I don't enjoy being a walking advertisement, but you know, fashion...
228. Will you regulate your children’s clothing
I will make them wear warm clothes in cold weather and less clothes in hot weather. Also, I'm kind of uncool with sexualised clothes for small children. One of my friends mail-orders his daughter's clothes from Denmark and I might copy his lead. I'd like to give my HFCs a lot of agency in what they wear and how they express themselves, though. there is some inherent conflict there and how to resolve it depends on a lot of factors, including the HFC's age.
229. How will you approach your wife or daughters if they are immodest
If my HFS is naked on the rush hour tube and there's not some obvious explanation for it, I would have her sectioned, which would be extremely tragic, so I hope this never happens.
If my daughter has decided to wear a tiny skirt and a tiny shirt out in the snow in January, I will be very annoying and insist that she take a coat with her and accept that my HFS would probably intervene at some point.
Also, my son will need ot take a coat as well, and wear a bloody jumper, especially if he keeps turning up the heat.