Guys are disgusting pigs

[casbur]

Why do all of you guys, even the best of you, have to be disgusting perverted pigs? Even those who supposedly can remain faithful can't seem to see how hurtful it is to look at porn and get aroused by another chick. I am certainly sexy, interesting, beautiful, funny, loving, caring, creative (if you know what i mean) and yet still porn is

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Alternative perspectives.

[talonxpool]

People partake in a world of fantasy to become emotionally and intellectually aroused in a novel way which they otherwise never or rarely experience in thier actual lifetimes. Before I try to argue my point though let me say this

Re: Alternative perspectives.

[casbur]

Actually, I really appreciate your comment, and your point resonates with me. You see, I think I get disappointed in humans in general, and here's the kicker - I have looked at those kinds of things before when I was away from a boyfriend. This will seem hypocritical, but I was disappointed in myself and felt guilty, so I hoped, as he is a really good guy, that he would be stronger than I was. Also, I had the fear reaction of not knowing his motivation for looking at it, and wondering what kind he was looking at. The thing is that none of us can be all things...breaking it down, if, for example, I am hot because I am somewhat petite and have brown hair and small breasts, I cannot also be a tall black woman with huge breasts. This is the paradox, being attractive as I am means I cannot be attractive for what I am not...this probably sounds crazy!! Anyways, I have chosen to ponder it but not let it ruin an otherwise great relationship. I suppose in my weaker moments I do fantasize about the extreme OTHER, as you said to realize

Re: Alternative perspectives.

[talonxpool]

I am glad to have helped, your point doesn't sound crazy at all, we are only human after all.

[anonymous]

u obviously have good self esteem...get over it...dont be a prude

[prowierd]

haha! what a great comment.

porn/erotica/whatever

[prowierd]

casbur,
if your boy wants to look at porn he should be able to. bottom line. guys are disgusting pigs...wow. what, do you hate men? i don't understand. is it your own hangup on porn that make you upset when your loved one views it. i don't even know if i am qualified to be commenting on this. as you can see, anonymous's comment really hit home for me. there are lots of girls out there who not only don't give a shit if their boyfriend watches porn, but they actually watch it with them. or make it with them. i have a sneaking suspition that your offense takes root in judeo christian puritanical biases. shed the conservative bullshit- or ditch the dude and go out with somebody that is afraid of sex to the same degree as yourself.

Re: porn/erotica/whatever

[casbur]

For the sake of argument (and we know How I love to argue) are you saying that people should be able to do absolutely whatever they want at all times? We are supposed to give in to every one of our urges? Not only does that shatter the whole idea of what love is, it paints a picture of what I know would be an even worse world to live in. If this were the case a lot of people would be doing nothing but fighting, eating, sleeping, having sex with random people, they would be ignorant useless wastes of space. I'm just saying...and you know, some people choose to have open relationships as well...anywho, you are somewhat right and somewhat wrong...I could react 2 ways: 1) I know that if I leered at other guys or had a bunch of playgirls or told him how hot other guys were, etc. he would feel bad and insecure and end up getting angry. 2)it is extremely rare that a thought even comes in my head about another guy, and I usually am honest about it and 3) he had been adamant from the start that he wasn't into porn really, so it shocked

Re: porn/erotica/whatever

[prowierd]

cheerio. and yes, i do believe people should be able to do whatever they want whenever they want. without consequence. that is the problem i have with the world i live in.

[casbur]

Well then we are just very different people and I guess I will just leave it at that. As if this is a surprise! haha