Do you really want to hurt me?

[cadhla]

Just in case you've ever wanted to cause me great emotional distress, but weren't entirely sure of exactly how to do it, I've prepared this handy-dandy primer for Hurting Your Seanan. Because everyone should know how!

1. Take it public before you take it private.If you have a problem, don't bother to tell me about it in a private forum. Sure, it

Comments

[barberio]

I've had this happen to me twice from people I'd considered good friends last year. And you're right, it bloody hurts.

[cadhla]

I just don't understand it. Nor, I must admit, do I really want to.

I should also note that I've been guilty of #4, at least; if you really, really piss me off, I may need a cool-down period before I can handle you. But I try not to.

[rysmiel]

if you really, really piss me off, I may need a cool-down period before I can handle you. But I try not to.

Likewise; and there can also be times where if I'm mildly miffed with A, and B has just done something to really really irk me, I might prefer not to deal with A or B until I calm down.

Very rare for me not to be able to say "I really don't want to have this conversation right now, please", though. Though people failing to hear that when I'm in that state can get very nasty very quickly.

[barberio]

On it's own, steping back from someone is perfetly rational behaviour in many cases. Combined with the others in your list, its not.

[filkerdave]

I don't think that cool-down periods are quite the same thing as walking away.