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[bloodrebel333]

Landlord literally said to me that "things would get a lot easier for me" if I "wore nice pantyhose". 'Or else' was implied, he couldn't have shouted 'for him' louder than it was with him just looking at me like that. And I, I am an idiot, because I panicked, because I considered, because I lost control, because I ruined myself, because I cried and

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[bloodrebel333]

Since I live in the same house he lives in, I have practically no rights by law (unless I've lived there for nine months or more, which I haven't). He's not allowed to come into my room, but I can't prove it every time and the police has already talked to him.

Thanks for the link! Unfortunately Den Haag is two hours away from my obligations here, but thanks for trying. :)

The boyfriend was actually supposed to live here with me, but the landlord suddenly withdrew his agreement a week after we moved in and so he's had to temporarily crash at his mother's. She's reluctantly agreeing with letting me stay the night there every now and then, but it's really hard for a nearly-seventy-year-old woman to suddenly have two extra people in her small house - so yes, out of the question. My friends can't let anyone stay for more than a few nights, either.

[bloodrebel333]

Thank you again.

[soharavsalienta]

Shit.

Do you have a webcam or small unobtrusive camera you can point at the door so that you have documentation of his forcing his way into your room? If you need documentation, that might help.

[bloodrebel333]

I can put a camera at the head of the stairs when I'm at home, but when I'm not - well, at some point the batteries will run out. And he might take the camera. And if I use my laptop, it'll mean my laptop will be on and he can get to anything without needing a password.

[drgaellon]

If you're using any flavor of Windows, you can set it to lock and require a password as soon as it goes to screen saver through the "Screen Saver" tab of the Display Control Panel. If you set the screen saver to a very short startup, you will be able to protect your computer fairly easily. (I'm sure Mac has a similar feature, I just don't know where.) Just be sure to use a fairly complex, non-trivial password.

Here by way of copperbadge.