on saving kids from 'broken hearts' & teaching kids about consent / red flags for bad-at-consent

[belenen]

icon: "analytical (a close-up photo of my eye in bright sunlight, showing the green and grey and roots-looking patterns)"Q: How do I keep my kid from getting their heart broken

Comments

[eristic_writer]

This is, hands down, my favorite thing you've ever written, and the one to which I most relate.

Not much of a substantive comment, but I'm leaving it as a sort of placemarker to remind myself to revisit later.

[belenen]

thank you <3

[solteronita]

Yes. To all of this!

[belenen]

:D

Absolutely

[kehlen]

Everyone should know this.

Re: Absolutely

[belenen]

I agree!

[call_me_katya]

I need to reread your red flags and memorise them to the point where they stand out for me in conversation. I need to notice them and not suppress my instincts when I see them. I need to not let people dismiss my pointing them out and saying my mental health issues cause me to imagine slights.

And yes! Rape is not the end. You're not tainted, you're not 'over'. You can grieve and recover, but there is recovery and there is an after.

[belenen]

*nodnod* me too, I tend to dismiss red flags when they pertain only to me and I need to treat them more seriously. I edited to make it more specific and added others, btw.

thanks for this comment!

[lilywolfsolomon]

Thanks for sharing this. I'm amazed you were able to come up with so many red flags with seeming ease.

[belenen]

well partly I looked up pick up artist stuff because that is chock full of consent violations and a good source for red flags! and I thought about behaviors of abusers I've known.