I myself am coming into my own about my feelings and poly. The hetero/homo wars have been fought against and won recently, but I didn't realise how much all of this would impact my life.
I'm glad to at least know someone with similar ideals online. Thank you for being a role model of sorts, a pillar of strength, and for following your own heart and mind.
well, I went from being curious myself years ago to tolerant and then finally realising that I too have so much love to give, that I can understand the want... or even NEED, rather, to have multiple partners.
Some people see it as being selfish but I don't think they fully understand - it really isn't about quantity. Being poly and (to a degree) bisexual means there's a lot of heat being taken from people who've no clue what it means to be such a person. That's why I'm sort of not disclosing it to others I don't feel I can trust.
I'm still figuring out what it means to me, anyway. I'm glad for the friends who don't fall into this category - one of them even asked about me and how I discovered this about myself, which is more productive than I could've hoped. If you've got the questions, I've got the answers... hopefully. Everything takes time. :-)
Some people see it as being selfish but I don't think they fully understand
there's an understatement! haha! How could giving more be selfish? perhaps it would be selfish if one were only in relationships for what they could get, but that would be true whether they were with one person or many.
I know what you mean about being bisexual. People just want to make you conform to the norm -- whatever the 'norm' for that person is. :-p
what DOES it mean for you? I know that is a terribly vague question and you don't have a fully formed answer but could I have your stabs in the dark? ;-)
It means I have to learn to not only confront but accept (in certain areas) whatever jealousies or insecurities I might have. Just because I feel I can do something doesn't always mean I'm ready to challenge the weak bits about myself. I have to be more sensitive to the needs/wants of others who are most important in my life - this is actually good because I do tend to be selfish a lot, which I mostly credit to my Leo core
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ah, this is a good read.
I myself am coming into my own about my feelings and poly. The hetero/homo wars have been fought against and won recently, but I didn't realise how much all of this would impact my life.
I'm glad to at least know someone with similar ideals online. Thank you for being a role model of sorts, a pillar of strength, and for following your own heart and mind.
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♥ thank you SO MUCH for saying that! what a wonderful compliment!
I hope you will share your feelings about poly, I am very curious.
*hugs* thank you so much ♥
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well, I went from being curious myself years ago to tolerant and then finally realising that I too have so much love to give, that I can understand the want... or even NEED, rather, to have multiple partners.
Some people see it as being selfish but I don't think they fully understand - it really isn't about quantity. Being poly and (to a degree) bisexual means there's a lot of heat being taken from people who've no clue what it means to be such a person. That's why I'm sort of not disclosing it to others I don't feel I can trust.
I'm still figuring out what it means to me, anyway. I'm glad for the friends who don't fall into this category - one of them even asked about me and how I discovered this about myself, which is more productive than I could've hoped. If you've got the questions, I've got the answers... hopefully. Everything takes time. :-)
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there's an understatement! haha! How could giving more be selfish? perhaps it would be selfish if one were only in relationships for what they could get, but that would be true whether they were with one person or many.
I know what you mean about being bisexual. People just want to make you conform to the norm -- whatever the 'norm' for that person is. :-p
what DOES it mean for you? I know that is a terribly vague question and you don't have a fully formed answer but could I have your stabs in the dark? ;-)
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It means I have to learn to not only confront but accept (in certain areas) whatever jealousies or insecurities I might have. Just because I feel I can do something doesn't always mean I'm ready to challenge the weak bits about myself. I have to be more sensitive to the needs/wants of others who are most important in my life - this is actually good because I do tend to be selfish a lot, which I mostly credit to my Leo core ( ... )
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