la musique me manque.
we all know that i'm possibly THE laziest person in the history of man.
no, seriously, it's true. i admit it freely and i'm in no way wounded if you agree.
so why is it that every so often, i get ambitious again? i start thinking to myself, "hey, i should go back to school and get my master's in music!" or "i should start playing again! i could play in a local band or orchestra or something!" or "i want to teach clarinet after all!"
why does this happen, dear internets?! i do not -- nor will i EVER -- understand it.
.....are there any books on "recovering" from a "gifted" childhood? (you know, to put it egotistically and whatnot.) i mean, if you want to try to figure out how to deal with growing up gifted, do you need to start with the.....well, growing up part?? if anyone knows, seriously, please. help.
(i should probably lock this. i'm aware of at least one parental unit who happens upon this page from time to time. but you know what? maybe it's better public. maybe it'll make things....easier, somehow. or maybe i'm just being exhibitionist girl again. who the fuck knows anymore?)
mwah.
~a
ps. interesting list of characteristics...sounds a little too much like looking in the mirror.
from sengifted.org:
CHARACTERISTICS OF THE GIFTED
Although of course all gifted individuals are unique, they do share certain characteristics. Some of these are present naturally, others have come into existence gradually through interaction with the environment. Cause and effect can therefore not always be distinguished from each other.
Speed of thinking. Gifted individuals think more quickly than others. They make many mental switches, associate rapidly and give the impression that they jump from one subject to the next.
High sensitivity. A higher development potential often is accompanied by high sensitivity. This high sensitivity manifests itself in different areas: psychomotoric, sensorial, intellectual, imaginative, emotional, and can resemble ADHD.
Over-stimulation of the senses manifests itself auditively (machines, radios, smacking lips), visually (light sources) or sense of touch (certain fabrics, labels in clothing, or touching). Currently, there is a high level of interest being shown in high sensitivity in general.
Introversion. The internal world of the gifted is particularly well-developed. They are quickly and easily hurt, which is why they tend to keep people at a distance. Some avoid parties and suchlike since the topics of conversation do not interest them. This can resemble autism. Introversion can also arise through having the feeling of being rejected. People with high IQs would seem to have difficulty meeting like-minded people, which can quickly lead them to become isolated.
Emotional development. Many gifted individuals feel emotions strongly. But because cognitive thinking dominates and provides safety, emotional development remains relatively underdeveloped. They have difficulty in linking feelings and reason. This can be reinforced when an individual has felt lonely from a young age. For example, when the environment does not acknowledge or recognize the child as being gifted. Fortunately, the emotional development of many gifted individuals has progressed well.
Creativity. The thought processes of the gifted differ from those of average intelligence: they are more global in nature and with a strong capacity for imagination. Averagely intelligent people can often not follow their train of thought. They can identify patterns quickly, so that they can, for example, predict trends successfully. They can often draw conclusions intuitively. This creativity is often frustrated by the regular education system.
Independence. The forming of judgments and opinions often takes place autonomously. They are non-conformist and therefore display what teachers easily label as ‘inappropriate behavior’. This independence accompanies the creativity mentioned above. They often have an aversion to non-democratic authority.
Perfectionism. Perfectionism is often accompanied by having too high expectations of others, but also with shame, guilt feelings and feelings of inferiority through not being able to meet their own high expectations. This leads to tension and occasionally ‘paralysis’.
Learning style. The learning style of the gifted is often exploratory. They have an extreme dislike of learning lists, they find it uninteresting and become bored. Often, they do not understand the teacher’s questions or the questions in the text books, because they are looking for things that aren’t there. This leads to frustration. Some gifted adults lack basic knowledge but have a lot of knowledge in areas that they are interested in. They often fail to develop learning strategies because they never learn from their failures.
Fear of failure and under-performing. If their intelligence is not stimulated, children often develop bad working habits. They sometimes think that they are stupid, become afraid of failure and start under-performing. Their motivation to learn decreases. This can result later in frustrations and disappointments in their career.
no, seriously, it's true. i admit it freely and i'm in no way wounded if you agree.
so why is it that every so often, i get ambitious again? i start thinking to myself, "hey, i should go back to school and get my master's in music!" or "i should start playing again! i could play in a local band or orchestra or something!" or "i want to teach clarinet after all!"
why does this happen, dear internets?! i do not -- nor will i EVER -- understand it.
.....are there any books on "recovering" from a "gifted" childhood? (you know, to put it egotistically and whatnot.) i mean, if you want to try to figure out how to deal with growing up gifted, do you need to start with the.....well, growing up part?? if anyone knows, seriously, please. help.
(i should probably lock this. i'm aware of at least one parental unit who happens upon this page from time to time. but you know what? maybe it's better public. maybe it'll make things....easier, somehow. or maybe i'm just being exhibitionist girl again. who the fuck knows anymore?)
mwah.
~a
ps. interesting list of characteristics...sounds a little too much like looking in the mirror.
from sengifted.org:
CHARACTERISTICS OF THE GIFTED
Although of course all gifted individuals are unique, they do share certain characteristics. Some of these are present naturally, others have come into existence gradually through interaction with the environment. Cause and effect can therefore not always be distinguished from each other.
Speed of thinking. Gifted individuals think more quickly than others. They make many mental switches, associate rapidly and give the impression that they jump from one subject to the next.
High sensitivity. A higher development potential often is accompanied by high sensitivity. This high sensitivity manifests itself in different areas: psychomotoric, sensorial, intellectual, imaginative, emotional, and can resemble ADHD.
Over-stimulation of the senses manifests itself auditively (machines, radios, smacking lips), visually (light sources) or sense of touch (certain fabrics, labels in clothing, or touching). Currently, there is a high level of interest being shown in high sensitivity in general.
Introversion. The internal world of the gifted is particularly well-developed. They are quickly and easily hurt, which is why they tend to keep people at a distance. Some avoid parties and suchlike since the topics of conversation do not interest them. This can resemble autism. Introversion can also arise through having the feeling of being rejected. People with high IQs would seem to have difficulty meeting like-minded people, which can quickly lead them to become isolated.
Emotional development. Many gifted individuals feel emotions strongly. But because cognitive thinking dominates and provides safety, emotional development remains relatively underdeveloped. They have difficulty in linking feelings and reason. This can be reinforced when an individual has felt lonely from a young age. For example, when the environment does not acknowledge or recognize the child as being gifted. Fortunately, the emotional development of many gifted individuals has progressed well.
Creativity. The thought processes of the gifted differ from those of average intelligence: they are more global in nature and with a strong capacity for imagination. Averagely intelligent people can often not follow their train of thought. They can identify patterns quickly, so that they can, for example, predict trends successfully. They can often draw conclusions intuitively. This creativity is often frustrated by the regular education system.
Independence. The forming of judgments and opinions often takes place autonomously. They are non-conformist and therefore display what teachers easily label as ‘inappropriate behavior’. This independence accompanies the creativity mentioned above. They often have an aversion to non-democratic authority.
Perfectionism. Perfectionism is often accompanied by having too high expectations of others, but also with shame, guilt feelings and feelings of inferiority through not being able to meet their own high expectations. This leads to tension and occasionally ‘paralysis’.
Learning style. The learning style of the gifted is often exploratory. They have an extreme dislike of learning lists, they find it uninteresting and become bored. Often, they do not understand the teacher’s questions or the questions in the text books, because they are looking for things that aren’t there. This leads to frustration. Some gifted adults lack basic knowledge but have a lot of knowledge in areas that they are interested in. They often fail to develop learning strategies because they never learn from their failures.
Fear of failure and under-performing. If their intelligence is not stimulated, children often develop bad working habits. They sometimes think that they are stupid, become afraid of failure and start under-performing. Their motivation to learn decreases. This can result later in frustrations and disappointments in their career.