Definitely do not send him her address without permission. You don't know what passed between them or what she thinks passed between them.
For example, my birth mother (I was raised by my birth mother and my adoptive father) has a history of bad relationships, divorce, and sending people weird letters which don't make any sense. In a nutshell, she's "Socially disabled".
My stepdad from when I was a baby whom I recently got back in contact with still loves my mother and would love to be back in contact with her. When I've talked to/visited him, he's seemed like a perfectly nice person. Even sends my kids Xmas gifts.
When I made the mistake of bringing him up to my mother, she exploded. Screaming, crying everything. She apparently thinks that he was abusive (he probably was) that he stalked her for many years, and that he's a dangerous threat to her. My even speaking to him puts her in danger as she sees it, and if he were to somehow get her address and send her a letter, aside from me paying hell for it, she would have a nervous breakdown.
Long story short, don't give him her information. You don't know what happened, you don't know why she stopped speaking and hid from him in the first place, and you don't know why she's crazy and what it does to her perceptions of him.
Also, if you feel like writing a letter but really don't want to write a letter, you could just write a short thank-you note.
For example, my birth mother (I was raised by my birth mother and my adoptive father) has a history of bad relationships, divorce, and sending people weird letters which don't make any sense. In a nutshell, she's "Socially disabled".
My stepdad from when I was a baby whom I recently got back in contact with still loves my mother and would love to be back in contact with her. When I've talked to/visited him, he's seemed like a perfectly nice person. Even sends my kids Xmas gifts.
When I made the mistake of bringing him up to my mother, she exploded. Screaming, crying everything. She apparently thinks that he was abusive (he probably was) that he stalked her for many years, and that he's a dangerous threat to her. My even speaking to him puts her in danger as she sees it, and if he were to somehow get her address and send her a letter, aside from me paying hell for it, she would have a nervous breakdown.
Long story short, don't give him her information. You don't know what happened, you don't know why she stopped speaking and hid from him in the first place, and you don't know why she's crazy and what it does to her perceptions of him.
Also, if you feel like writing a letter but really don't want to write a letter, you could just write a short thank-you note.
Good luck.
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