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wildwordwomyn in _survivors_

What Do I Have To Offer?

Mar 21, 2007 12:34

Been with my girlfriend officially around a year now. And sometimes I wonder if she'll be able to keep surviving me.
I'm so damn insecure about us. About her love for me, her attraction. Why would she want me, of all people? That's what I've actually asked her before, what I still think deep down. Why me? I'm nothing. Average woman with average ( Read more... )

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femme_f March 21 2007, 17:28:54 UTC

I don't have anything useful to say, but I can so relate to this. Especially the part about being able to handle pain, anger and depression better than love.
I think you need to talk about this to her, time after time. Communication is important.
Find something soft, a teddy bear. Since two weeks I sleep with my favorite stuffed animal again and it's comforting in some way.
Good luck on Monday.

xx

wildwordwomyn March 21 2007, 18:22:15 UTC

Thanks for listening, well, reading. And thanks for the advice. I keep trying, and hanging on. Have to say I am so glad I found the survivors community!

smallhawk March 21 2007, 17:35:35 UTC

I can understand where you're coming from here, I've been there before. The best advice is just to communicate and trust your partner, which is difficult but completely worth it in the end.

I wish you luck! *hugs*

wildwordwomyn March 21 2007, 18:23:30 UTC

Thanks. Have to say this community and you guys is the closest I feel to being understood as a survivor...

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wildwordwomyn March 21 2007, 20:15:44 UTC

Somehow your comment gives me hope. Thanks.

hollow_warrior March 22 2007, 00:43:01 UTC

I'm 25 and in a 4 year relationship with my girlfriend. We have started to call eachother "partners", because girlfriend seems too light a term at this point ( ... )

wildwordwomyn March 22 2007, 11:51:30 UTC

Aw, thanks!

passiondreamer March 22 2007, 03:07:22 UTC

i would say what others have already said - communicate, communication is important. good luck and lots of hugs.

wildwordwomyn March 22 2007, 11:55:57 UTC

Trying. Getting better at listening. It's the talking part I'm still working on. The letting her in. But still doing it. We've talked about our last whatever-it-was. Think I'm overanalyzing and running scared. So I'm sticking around. Emotionally gonna be there and live through it...Wish me luck!