Comments | _survivors_: Something that is helping me....

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Something that is helping me....

Feb 25, 2006 13:45

I am posting this incase it may help others. I am trying to view my rape from a different angle. I was viewing it as a VICTIM, and now I'm trying to view it as a SURVIVOR. I've made a list of survivor traits, and am trying to implement them into my life. For example, I am usually quiet and withdrawn at school, but now I am trying to start ( Read more... )

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yehovahyireh February 25 2006, 13:46:21 UTC

Well said.

re:Something that is helping me... teardrops7 February 25 2006, 14:14:22 UTC

You have really given me 'food for thought'!, I
believed I was a survivor until I read your post,
now I realize, that in many ways I have lived my
life as a 'victim'. Your words are powerful & 'right on'....Thank You!!! ps.looking forward to your progress, You Are On Track

sistahraven February 25 2006, 15:24:22 UTC

A-freaking-men.

Own it all, and thrive in the strength that it brings you. It is okay to see things from his point of view - because even though you might feel left out of the equation... you can see that though he *did* fall prey to his inner demons that *you* have not.

And healing has a great motto: Simple, but not easy. The things we need to do are simple and straightforward, though they take a lot of energy and will to complete.

Sounds like you're embracing the empowerment, good for you!

izdihar February 26 2006, 00:15:13 UTC

AMEN! I felt so hung up over forgiving my abusers- as if somehow my pardoning them would make what they did to me ok. It's hard to accept that you can still know that what your abusers did is bad, but seek ways to try to understand them and forgive them for the awful things that they have done.

Props to you!!!! =)

re:Something that is helping me... teardrops7 February 26 2006, 08:57:50 UTC

When I told my 'abusers' I forgave them, it was like an enormous weight being taken off my shoulders, it did not mean that they were not evil or what they had done 'to the child' was 'okay', for me, it took away their power over me and my life. It did not matter that they did not acknowledge me or what they had done..they were no longer 'in' my life, mentally. It was over!..does that make sense?

briar_witch February 26 2006, 18:38:17 UTC

Very powerful!

I am still working on my own issues of self-esteem, self-blame and self-hatred. I refuse to forgive The Asshole (forgiveness is highly overrated) but I am working on hating myself less, on forgiving myself for what I did and didn't do to contribute to the situation. On an intellectual level I understand what happened, but it's hard to integrate that knowledge into my heart and spirit so I can truly heal.

Anger is a good thing, it can be a shield against depression and pain, it can help you stand up for yourself. You're right--it is time to stop giving the assholes power over us.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the matter. It's good to see someone be so strong, even if I can't be so myself.