I hear you, and I sympathize. I've been going through much the same thing...my deal is, how do I know what's the right thing to do for me? And who will stick by me when I feel such strong needs for change? And if she doesn't stick by me, what am I going to do? *sigh*
I'm with you. 100%. And I don't even ACTUALLY know you...*Sigh* Good luck and Goddess bless.
My deal is, how do I know what's the right thing to do for me? Yeah, that's where I'm at too. It's a life altering decision. Changing your gender permanently is a huge step. I need to make sure it's what's right. But how do I know? I feel this overwhelming pressure building up inside me, pushing for a change. But it still confuses the hell out of me. Part of me is scared of losing visibility in the gay scene--my only home. In essence, I'll be a man with a woman... heterosexual. It's scary. And the even more pressing issue is who will stand by me when and if I do decide to take this leap, beyond dressing the part, beyond being butch... who will support me when and if I start taking T and have top surgery? I know the real answer is, that it doesn't matter. I'll be who I'm truly meant to be. But it's a lonely feeling, knowing that everyone I've loved and leaned on may run away simply because I want to show my true self.
Can you tell I'm a tad conflicted? I contradict myself every other sentence. :-/
*sigh* I just don't know what to do. My gf's coming to visit me...and I need to talk to her...about it all..because I really don't have anyone to talk to. I've been so comfy in the dyke/lesbian world...I don't know if I have the strength to change... but I need to change. It hurts, so much, so much .... I just don't know what to do. And I gather you're in the same boat...
I've nestled myself into my little niche in the dyke world and it's comfortable. It's terrifying to think of ever leaving it. I don't know if I have the strength to change, I don't know if I deserve the change, but I also need to change. My gf says she'll stand by me through thick and thin... but, she's a lesbian and she hates guys and penises and body hair. She says she loves me no matter what, but somehow I feel that applies only if I'm female. So, do I risk it? If she leaves me, I'm scared of never finding anyone who will want to date a transguy. Blah. I don't know.
I've been going through much the same thing...my deal is, how do I know what's the right thing to do for me? And who will stick by me when I feel such strong needs for change? And if she doesn't stick by me, what am I going to do?
*sigh*
I'm with you. 100%. And I don't even ACTUALLY know you...*Sigh*
Good luck and Goddess bless.
-Lg
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Can you tell I'm a tad conflicted? I contradict myself every other sentence. :-/
And even though I don't know you, I ( ... )
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I just don't know what to do.
My gf's coming to visit me...and I need to talk to her...about it all..because I really don't have anyone to talk to.
I've been so comfy in the dyke/lesbian world...I don't know if I have the strength to change...
but I need to change.
It hurts, so much, so much .... I just don't know what to do.
And I gather you're in the same boat...
Just out of curiosity...how old are you?
I'm 21.
-Lg
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And I'm 18. Well, for another two weeks at least.
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*sigh*
*sigh*
Good luck.
I'll end here, cuz ,well, I'm at work.
-Lg
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Hang in there. I don't want to sound hypocritical, but it will all work itself out.
At least that's what I keep telling myself...
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