Oh, and also...

[zorah]

...For the record - girls hitting girls is just as bad as boys hitting girls. Just incase anyone thought different.

Fuck that shit.

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[zorah]

I feel like it is kind of this open secret that lesbian/queer relationships also involve abuse like hetero relationships - but we are not as appalled when we hear of a woman being hit by her female partner. Like hitting is okay between two social equals, but not okay if one is more socially empowered - i.e. male.

Likewise with emotional abuse.

Pisses me off.

[infinidad]

agreed.

abuse of power is abuse of power regardless. but i'm curious what brought about this observation too.

[zorah]

Within my larger social circle it seems that lately I have heard of/been witness to behavior that in htero relationships would be called abuse (physical, emotional...).

But because both participants have vaginas, it's downplayed - in a community of women who would string up a man for the same behavior.

As though women can't abuse other women.

I think it is a byproduct of our education on racism/isms generally - like we reconfigure

racism = prejudice + power

into

abuse = hurtful behavior + power

and since women are all oppressed, we can't abuse each other

Does that make sense?

Also I think social conditioning has primed us to see relationships between vagina-having people as "more emotional" and hurtful behavior between women in a relationship as a natural consequence of that heightened emotionality.

Which is a giant load of crap.

I'm sick of hearing abuse passed off as dyke drama.

[on_se_dit_tu]

I agree.

[peaceofpie]

I even wanna go ahead and say "Hitting is bad" as a genderless blanket statement!

[conuly]

Now, that's just crazy talk.