It's done

[zingerella]

There's not much else can be said. We celebrated my dad's life yesterday, and cried a lot about his death. I'm still crying, of course

Comments

[neeuqdrazil]

*hugs* and *loves*

What you've written here corresponds pretty closely to what I remember you saying yesterday.

[zingerella]

*hugs* *loves*

Thanks. I'm glad it corresponds.

[crystal_diva]

The eulogy you delivered was lovely, J...really lovely. I could never eulogize my own parents...I don't imagine I'd ever be able to get through it, let alone with the grace I am sure that you showed!

And I am so very sorry your time with him got cut short, just when things were going the right way. This reminds me SO very much of what I am sure my Beloved feels over the loss of his dad last summer...and I truly feel for you both.

*hugs*

[zingerella]

captainmushroom read the beautiful eulogy that my brother wrote, because my brother didn't think he'd be able to get through the reading. I pretty much had to read my own, because I changed it on the subway on my way to the Celebration, when I remembered the word uninhibited.

People are very forgiving of wobbles at events like these.

[zingerella]

Thank you.

I'm sorry that LJ has become difficult for you. It really does mean a lot to me that so many lovely people have been thinking of me and my family.

[sabotabby]

*more hugs*

From my fortunately limited experience, losing someone with whom one's relationship was complicated and troubled is more difficult than losing someone one simply loved deeply.

And that old guy was just bizarre.

[zingerella]

Re: Weird sad old guy-srsly. My current theory is that he's a very lonely person who needed to have his friendship with my dad acknowledged. Because he may not have many friends or much family, he feels it important to have his grief for my dad validated (and, incidentally, to however unintentionally trivialize my relationship with my dad). Maybe he's one of the Haliburton friends of my dad's youth.

[roadnotes]

Giving a eulogy is a hard thing, particularly when your relationship with the person was not all good; I went through that with my mother's service. *hugs* if you want them, and space to talk.

[zingerella]

Thank you.

*hugs*

I felt I had to say something, to remind people that he was my dad, in addition to being their drinking and golf buddy or real-estate agent.

My brother, who was closer to him, also wrote a beautiful eulogy.

Been thinking of you and Soren-hope all's as good as it can be at home with you.