Half-assed, cause I'm tired of having this window open.

[zevhonith]

So, I've been saying for years, and in fact have posted relatively recently, that the age-old complaint of men not knowing what women want is essentially bullshit; there's a model, guys, there's a lesson plan. Just act like John Cusack

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[muffster]

interesting. i never realy looked at it like that before. and i don't function well in a relationship where i have to put on a good face. I need to be given the room to decide how i feel and the freedom to say it when i am ready.

i don't want anyone i am with to be anything but himself. people love in diffrent ways and show love in diffrent ways. the trick to me is figuring out how each person shows love. and accepting that. sometimes it meets my needs and sometime it doesn't.

[zevhonith]

Well, sure, if you're going to be *serious* about it. ;)

I think how it translates for me is that different people have different ways of showing that they're trying - but I still need to know that the feeling is there. The willingness to try again at least once after running into a brick wall - however that may manifest.

[armyofone]

I've gotten that women dig "the chase". They want to feel desired and put on a pedestal. But frankly, I'll only buy that to a point. Women may enjoy it, but they also habitually abuse it BADLY. And really, often they don't get that for some guys, buying a girl flowers is their boombox in the rain. Just because he's not literally drenched to the skin playing Peter Gabriel does not mean he isn't trying.

[zevhonith]

See my above comment to muffster. Sure, it manifests differently, and there is definitely an onus on the person-being-wooed to recognize it for what it is. Like I said, *my* boombox in the rain was, at least once, just being asked the same question more than once - I'm not asking for the Taj Mahal here.

You're right, women can and do abuse it, and that's awful and sad, and lead to men who will try exactly once and then leave cause they don't want to be abused again. And, well, there's not much I can do about that, except say, well, not ALL women do.

[victoriouslimp]

by your design... i will remain alone. it just confirms that i should stop trying.

[zevhonith]

Aw, honey. Don't say that. This is just one chick's opinion - and you know we've already talked about all the effort I require. :)

[indiecowboy]

I think the Lloyd Dobler ring is mighty high to reach for.

My question is....what happens when happily ever after becomes every day?

Is LLoyd still grandly romantic? Is he still optimistic?

What if I'm half Dobler and my BF is the other half, and we make a whole Dobler?

[luvcraft]

Did you find each other because you both have Dobler Gaydar? :)X

[indiecowboy]

Noooo....that was achieved by employing Lassie to sniff down my prey.

What's that Lassie? Did you say there was a nice gay gentleman across the country...down a well?

*rolls eyes*

[luvcraft]

[luvcraft]

*stands outside holding up blaring stereo*
*gets arrested for disturbing the peace*
*gets served restraining order*
*blames it all on Binky*

Remember, kids. Romantic comedy behavior will get you arrested in real life, no matter what your Binky says.

P.S.: I've got your Cusack right here.
P.P.S.: No, wait, my bad, that's my Nutsack.

[zevhonith]

I did say this applied to relationships. Your stalking of the Noxzema girl is not, whatever you may think, a relationship.

[luvcraft]

Beautiful skin begins with Noxema, but it ends HERE!! *cue Cape Fear music*

Actually, I'm really stalking the Burt's Bees twins. I wanna rub their great big fluffy heads together and stick them to a wall with static electricity. :)X

I really wish you'd read my screenplay. :(X

[zevhonith]

I'm sure you do. Right now, though, I have a book I never even *started* editing, and a thesis to read. Cause I'm a bad friend. You're on the list there somewhere, though.